My (f22) boyfriend (m26) said something that hurt me the other night that I’ve been trying hard to let go of and move forward. We both got high on edibles and I was being really affectionate but he wasn’t. It lead to him saying how I liked him more than he likes me which immediately made me tear up. He took it back afterwards when he thought about what he said but it really really hurt. For some reason it’s been really hard to get it out of my head and I’m not sure how to handle it. We’ve been dating for 4 months now and he treats me amazing otherwise in every way it’s just that I’m in so deep that I’m the one saying I love you and he isn’t there yet which is fine. I understand it takes time but I just didn’t expect him to say that I like him more than he likes me out loud.
TL;DR- boyfriend of 4 months says I like him more than he likes me because I was being more affectionate than him
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The truth often hurts. In this case, its a horrific stab wound because its coming directly from the person you love. I feel for you.
I’m sure the edible had a hand in this coming up….but its not like he was delirious and not knowing what he was talking about. He said what he said, and it was simply true.
Obviously the best case scenario is for two people to be on the same page in terms of attraction/love etc. but it doesnt always work that way. And how the two people can bridge those gaps becomes key.
At 4 months, its not crazy for there to be a gap in feelings IMO. People either work through it, or just agree to not be together. This is why we date, and why dating/love is so complicated.
I bet if you held back a bit on the affection going forward, he’ll actually adjust and become more affectionate with you. Not that you should play that hot/cold game or anything, but that might make him realize how much it hurt you.
>boyfriend of 4 months says I like him more than he likes me
>I’m the one saying I love you and he isn’t there yet
He’s telling you the truth. It’s up to you what you do with that information, but it’s truth. Doesn’t mean it will always be true, but it might, and that’s something you need to be prepared for.
Honestly it depends on his actions. Does show his love in his doings? Or are you the one doing it all. Some guys say stuff like that because of their nature. Even though they clearly love you more than you think. I stand corrected