I’m sure it has been asked 100 times, but what is the safest way to choke a girl?

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1. I am not sure it has been asked 100 times, that being sadi, i have no answer for you

2. There is no safe way.

   You could tell her to hold her breath while you count. This would be safe.

3. It’s not safe. It’s a varsity level kink. Don’t do it.

4. In the BDSM community, choking is considered edge play. i.e. something that is extremely dangerous and should only be done by people who know exactly what they are doing and know their partner and their reactions very well. Choking is never safe. There are always risks, no matter how you do it. I would not advice doing it at all. Some of the risks involved include:

   * Loss of coordination
   * Damage to the larynx or trachea
   * Migraines
   * Hemorrhages in the eyeballs
   * Permanent vision loss
   * Cardiac arrest
   * Brain damage
   * Death

   Some symptoms can occur as late as two weeks after the choking, even when there was no discomfort during it. However, if you still want to do it, here are some things to consider:

   * Take a first aid class and learn how do do CPR.
   * Ask her about any medical conditions she has.
   * Always have a phone nearby so you can call an ambulance.
   * Always make sure that you can see your partner’s face. Never do it while you are behind them or in the dark.
   * Never put any pressure on the front of their neck. This can damage their windpipe and lead to death.
   * If your partner has any discomfort or pain in their neck on the days following the choking, seek medical help immediately.
   * Establish a non verbal sign your partner can use to tell you to stop. Make sure that their hands are free so they can use the signal.
   * When our partner uses the signal, stop immediately.
   * When their eyes start to roll up or their eyelids become weak, stop immediately.
   * Don’t choke them long enough for them to loose consciousness.
   * Don’t choke them for long than 5 seconds.
   * If they pass out, stop immediately. If they don’t regain their consciousness within 30 seconds, call an ambulance.
   * Never choke someone as a surprise.
   * Never choke someone while either you or they are under the influence of any drugs, including alcohol.

5. I just simulate it. Hand on the neck but only gentle pressure on the sides while giving her a dominant look. You can steer the head a bit for dominance by pushing on her jaw with your thumb and index finger.

6. ‘safe’ isn’t not choking a girl. Typically it is better to do this while she is riding since it will be easier to tell if she suddenly goes limp. Before you do this get training on CPR.

   A friend of mine’s wife likes to be choked and one time she stopped breathing. He was freaked out but she regained consciousness. Not sure if that ended them doing that for fear of it happening again.

7. Hi, I’m an author who wrote a book on kink. Choking is one of the riskiest kinks, so the safest way to do it is to not do it (or to just pretend to do it by putting your hand on her throat). Cardiac arrest and other ill effects are potential risks of choking someone.

   But if you want to do it in the safest way possible (which is still not all that safe), you want to apply gentle pressure to the arteries on either side of the neck – NOT to the windpipe at the front of the neck. You also want to only do this for a few seconds at a time before releasing, and you should agree beforehand on a safe-signal she can do if she needs you to let go immediately, such as tapping your leg.