Often times, I find myself answering peoples questions, people revealing their secrets to me, people relying on me in some way or the other. People call me to vent, or cry to me. It’s all getting really overwhelming, and now I’m wondering, what caused me or led me to become the group therapist? oR what have been your experiences with unintentionally becoming the friend group therapist? I think at the end of the day my friends aren’t as interested in my day to day and just want to be recognized or to vent. How does this happen to people?
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It’s a lack of boundaries. Have you tried telling people to ask you first if you have the mental space to hear them out or do they just vent as soon as they talk to you?
You can enforce boundaries in a non confrontational way. Instead of listening people vent for hours, offer something to do that will help change their mood and that you would also like to do (working out, going on a walk, see a movie, etc.).