My partner is mad at me for constantly making assumptions and overthinking. The only reason why I overthink is because they’re super quiet majority of the time either playing video games or doing something else and when I try to talk or say something they always respond with a short response like nice or cool. I can’t ask them if everything is ok because then they’ll get mad, i can’t tell them the reason why I’m so upset and anxious because then I’ll be in the wrong and they’ll be mad at me, and i can’t even tell them how I feel about our relationship and talk serious about it because then they’ll get mad at me. I feel like all I do is give 101% percent while they give me less I feel like I’m the only one being vulnerable and actually making an effort to prevent arguments while they get mad at me for the smallest things and create an argument even when I try to deescalate everything and say something to try and make things alright and calm things down they still want to be mad at me and argue. I love my partner I really do but today and days like this I feel like I’m close to having an anxiety attack and have a mental breakdown.
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Why are you trying to date someone you have no communication with and who gets mad at you if you try to speak to them? What are you possibly getting out of this relationship?
It sounds like you’re trying to have a conversation when they’re literally busy with other things. If it’s small/ho-hum talk and I’m playing a game or reading or watching tv or even cooking, I’m not gonna really engage much. That’s just me needing to enjoy what I’m doing and not wanting a conversation too.
If someone wants to have quality time, I can def sit down and give them my attention when asked and it’s feasible. It sounds like you’re not getting the attention and quality couple-time you’re looking for and that conversation needs to happen when you’re both able to address it directly rather than have your SO brush you off or be unfocused.
If timing and delivery isn’t an issue then it’s possible you need to assess what the relationship is doing for you both and if you want to stay with someone who is disengaged. It’s not good (or fair to you) feeling neglected and like things are one-sided.