Background, my boyfriend and I recently started to try rimming. I (female body) receive, since neither of us are comfortable with him receiving. But my questions lie with preparation and making it easier for him.
1. Tips for shaving over my anus (and all of it in general). don’t exactly have a difficult time but it’s not easy either and I want to make sure I get a clean as possible shave.
2. General cleanliness. Any specific tips for cleaning your anus? I wipe as best I can after going to the restroom, and I shower beforehand. I use soap and water and use my fingers to clean the outside, and I use one finger to slightly clean the inside.
3. Body positioning. What positions are the best for getting your ass ate? Usually I’m on my stomach flat. What are the most fun?
4. Vaginal cleanliness too. The post isn’t necessarily centered about it but just extra tips. Any ideas on how to best clean before I receive? I clean the outside skin with soap and water and the labia/vulva with just water.
Thank you for reading, if you have any tips/tricks or advice, I’d be glad to hear it!
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First off I wanna say that it’s great that you’re looking into all of this and wanting to do it well! Sounds like you’re both gonna have a fun time exploring 🙂
(1.) Go slow, and don’t be afraid of making multiple passes. Try squatting over a little mirror so you can see what you’re doing. IMO it’s more important to be careful and safe than it is to get every single hair. From my experience, shaving most of the hairs does absolute magic for making it easier to keep things clean back there, even if you don’t get all of them.
(2.) If you’ve had a bowel movement recently before your shower, then that’s fine if your movements are regular. If you’re still concerned, look into doing an enema/anal douche. If you’re not getting penetrated, or at most just a finger, then it is enough to just clean out just the rectum. ⅓ to ½ a filled enema bulb each time is good for me, but this depends on your anatomy. This clears out anything that might be “ready to go.” If you use too much, it can act somewhat as a laxative and it’ll be a while until the water runs clear. Do your research before going this route, and maybe try it a few days before it’s play time, so you know what to do/not to overfill.
I should reiterate that this is probably overkill! What you’re doing is most likely fine if you also have a healthy diet and regular bowel movements. It can be irritating to do rectal douching too often, and it’s mostly unnecessary anyway if you’re not planning on penetration.
(3.) My personal favorite (for giving or receiving) is having my partner sit on my face, including grinding her ass against my mouth. On the stomach also works well, but even better with a pillow underneath the hips to raise the butt, or just going full doggystyle. You might also enjoy it standing, or bent over the bed, or having his head over the side of the bed and you rub your ass into his face. Get creative! It’s okay to suggest a position and find out it’s not a great fit between you two. IMO the best thing about sex is getting to explore and have fun with someone you can trust and be vulnerable with.
(4.) I myself am not equipped with a vagina/vulva, so I shouldn’t be taken as an authority, but if that’s what works for you then it’s likely fine! Washing too much/using soap internally can be irritating. A healthy vagina is naturally self-cleaning, so unless you have specific concerns (which might warrant a talk with obgyn?), you probably shouldn’t have to worry about it.