Let me break things down first. I’m a M21 and my situationship partner is F23. We live together, and literally do almost everything together, but we don’t have any titles or anything of the sorts. We have been perfectly fine where we were at, actually, we talked about it and decided we were in a good spot, that we didn’t need to change anything at the moment. She knows that I love her, and she has said the same to me. But recently, she has started messaging a guy that we have as a client from work.
She absolutely insists that she and he are just friends, and that she just has no friends (which is kind of true, I feel bad that she has no friends). She has never hung out with this man, or anything like that. Only seen him while we were working for maybe a minute at a time, and texting. But the texting has gotten horribly distracting. She’s spending every bit of free time messaging this guy, and I technically have no right in seeing what they are saying. Even if we were dating I wouldn’t have that right, I don’t want to be that guy who controls what their S/O does and who they talk to. She claims that she still wants to have what we have, ironic since it’s technically nothing due to no label. What should I do? I don’t want to be wrong to trust her, and then find out that she actually is talking to him in ways that would be considered red flags in a relationship. I don’t want to ruin her chance at having a friend, but I also know that l’ve been played before in almost the same exact way as it is going now, and I don’t want that. Does anyone have any good advice for this?