So me (21yo) and this guy (25yo) Im dating went to a restaurant and his best friend with his girlfriend were there. They said hello to us and she literally said “Hello ——(name of his ex)” and I was shocked so he immediately corrected her by saying my name, she was confused and she kept just talking to him till they went and left us alone.
His best friend literally just nod his head to me to say hi despite being the first time seeing me. He didn’t talk to me at all. I then was with my phone and I heard him saying to him “is this really happening…”
I was super sad and mad. So after they went I confronted him and ask for who was the girls name (I didn’t know it was his ex at this time) he said it was just a friend who I looked like. And after insisting he told me “it’s someone i loved…” and proceeded to tell me that it’s his ex and that they are friends and blah blah and that she broke his heart and they broke up bc of cultural differences….
And he ended up saying that he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship bc he wasn’t healed but he didn’t want to lose me.
So I went home and just cried. I thought he was my soulmate and I still think that. We laugh we have an extreme conexión and we have crazy similarities. I know it sounds weird but when we met it was like we were meant for each other. But me and him are actually just really broken and it’s trash actually.
I called him and had one of the most heart touching conversation. And I decide to keep in touch with him bc I believe that one day we will be ready to be together.
Last week we met to cook at my place and we had so much fun dancing and having existential convos and eating. We finished the night by watching a movie and talking about our life plans. Later we were so sleepy that he asked if he could sleep and I said no problem. We did skincare and slept after having pillowtalk he kissed me goodnight He slept like a babie that was the first time we sleep together and it was literally just sleep.
So I really believe we are soulmates. And we are young and dumb. I can’t just leave and disappear. My heart would die. I love him but no one has said that. Should I just leave or wait for the right moment?