I’m wondering if anyone else has had this similar feeling and why you were concerned. Or maybe it’s just I’m an overly concerned friend (Below is just a rant about why I’m concerned don’t have to read that part if you dont want to)
Me and my friends are approaching our mid 20s and I’ve begun to realize how some of them work dead end jobs that don’t pay them enough to be financially stable. None of them have completed more than a year of college before dropping out or never went to college to being with and don’t plan on ever going or returning. Some had plans on joking the military a few years ago but threw that idea out the window for who knows what reason.
They don’t actually have any idea on where they see themselves in a few years from now. They’ll regularly talk about leaving their job to find something better, but never do and it’s gotten to the point I’m genuinely concerned with what they’re doing with their lives
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Not really. All my friends are doing better than I am
About 3-5 of my friends a year ago dropped out of real university to join Andrew Tate’s “hustlers university” in pursuit of “getting rich like a top G”
I was concerned, and spent months trying to convince them why it was a bad idea. They ignored me.
And at that point I realised, I’m not their dad, it’s their life, I’m not responsible for it. I wish them all the best, but it’s not my concern what they do with their future.
Not at all I have my own shit to sorry about. I’ll check up on them through text once in a blue moon but I don’t try and be a part of their life. I make more than all of them I tried to get them into the union with me but they’d rather stack boxes at a warehouse for 21 an hour while I’m already double their income and still not done with my apprenticeship.
Wait 10 years and 3/4 of them will be on their 3rd wife and at least 2nd kid and have totally flushed their lives down the toilet.
I like my friends, but I don’t really care where they choose to go in life unless it’s destructive.
That’s the mid 20s for you. All of my friends were working below their ability level. 10 years later they are professor, dr., Airforce captain, and a managing director at a billion dollar company.
I’m not getting involved in their finances unless it risks affecting me personally, or they ask for specific advice.
People go through life their own way and I don’t like to preach or criticise.
I had a buddy who asked advice on dropping £700 a month on a car. All I did was ensure he knew the total cost over 1 year, the term of the loan, and over 40 years (£336k in todays money) if he was planning/expecting to always have a < 3 year old car of that quality. He still got it and that’s fine with me.
My friends are doing very well, better than I am even. I’m fortunate to not have to worry about them.
Nah I got other shit to think about
When you are younger, you don’t. Then you hit 50, and lose 6 close friends in 2 years? Yeah, even though you know everyone you love, know, including yourself is going to die one day, it still becomes as hard to cope with the shock. Then, yeah, you do start questioning what your friends are doing with their lives..
Nope. Their business is their business.
Maybe just one because he lives to procrastinate on huge life events, but even still, all my friends are doing way better than I am.
No. As you age and progress in life, you will naturally separate from people that aren’t progressing. My former best friend became a meth addict. I told him how I felt, told his family about his addiction, and then moved on. He eventually went to prison. Just have to move on.
>some of them work dead end jobs that don’t pay them enough to be financially stable
Literally none of my friends were at that point. Most lived with their parents.
They get out of the dead end jobs eventually.
I was always alone during high school and so I didn’t make any friends but one. And after highschool I didn’t feel like socializing so I kept that one friend and didn’t make more.
You can’t concern yourself with others, especially if they are just friends. Focus on yourself and your family, that should occupy your time substantially!
No? It’s none of my business
Friends? Ha!
I didn’t when I was your age, but I do now. I worked in bars/restaurants throughout college, but I got a desk job immediately upon graduating and now I’m in director level position in a career I plan to do for life.
Many of the people I worked with in college are still there, or in another restaurant/bar. We are in our 30s. I should say I don’t think there is ANYTHING WRONG with service industry and I miss it every day. But at a certain point, you’d expect they’d use their years of experience to get into a higher level position. Hotel/casino management, a GM of a thriving bar/restaurant, something like that.
They don’t have health insurance, they can’t/don’t save for retirement, they have little time off and then sleep all day when they do.. I worry for what will happen as their bodies slow down or if they want kids or whatever.
At the end of the day, it’s not my business.
My friend got a history degree.
None of your business.
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How is it that you think your life is so figured out that you have time to meddle in somebody else’s?
Your a sweet and caring guy, your friends are lucky to have you.
Friends… what friends?
Nope. They work their side of the street, I work mine.
Given how big their sphere of influence is on YOUR life I’d be very concerned.
Surround yourself with people that act and think in a way that moves you towards your goals. I had to cut some people loose for this reason as their actions and mindset could have dragged me down.
Most of my friends are alcoholics now,It sucks.
But they think it’s cool and fine, so whatever.
With my group we all care pretty deeply about how each others lives are going otherwise we wouldn’t be friends so like if one isn’t making the best life decisions then we will usually make sure they know then praise positive stuff happening cause we all want eachother to be doing great at the things we want to do so we motivate success and bully sub optimal performance