I’ll keep this short. I am 17F. I school obviously full time, and then I have a part time job 4 days out of the week working 3-4 right after school. On the days I have off, I like to do my own things, catch up on work ect. It can be draining. My parents are the traditional asian parents, school is important ect. Though my dad isn’t as strict as my mom. mom is working so i let my dad know I’m going out. He usually isn’t as strict. Once a week, my bf and I hangout on Sundays. When we both don’t have work or school. ONCE out of the whole week. I don’t have other friends that i hang out with on a regular basis. And the only time I am not home is for work or school, or running errands for my parents.. but when she comes home, (we usually hang out 3-5 hours) she calls and calls and asks when i’m coming home, or calls to tell me that I am annoying for always going out, and i’m dumb and I’m never home to clean. The latest I come home is 8, knowing I have school. Note that, I am the oldest daughter, so I do tend to cook for my siblings, which I do before I leave with my bf. I clean before i leave, i already have schoolwork done. I am just annoyed, I feel like I can’t even spend an evening with my bf without feeling guilty or scared that I am going to get yelled at. I am turning 18 soon, and I already know that a lot of things aren’t gonna change even though I am a “legal” adult. I don’t have much saved up to even move out and support my self. I’m drained sometimes from family and my parents. Advice on how to cope? or things I can do?
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Hey, take a deep breath, hold it…. now exhale. Think about what you want. Tell your mother? parents? exactly what you told us. Explain your week to them and what your needs are for “down time”. At almost 18, you and your boyfriend should be able to spend 3-5 hours together uninterrupted. Edit: per week