Ok so, I just found out I’m shooting blanks after my vasectomy!!!!! Its a new phase of my life and I have a party planned in 3 weeks. I have invited a bunch of people to celebrate cuz…..why not? I had 3 kids with the Ex, no more. Ive been open about it (it was an eventful procedure) and there are a couple girls that i have chemistry with. I’ve been single for a year and half (not through lack of trying) and only had sex once in that same time frame back in Jan 2022. Now I haven’t relieved myself since the test and I wanted to save it for an encounter (hoping one of those girls), in my eyes its kinda special. Now I’m worried about not lasting long enough. I usually took a pill i got at the local sex shop when the ex and i had special weekends, which made me last longer. I’m also looking into numbing wipes or sprays. I gonna be super rusty too. When the moment draws close to any sexual activity, i get super shaky, like im cold. It happens if i was going to sext with someone. I feel like there’s a wall. Has anyone been through this situation or similar? Any advice from women?