I started having feelings for a coworker but she was dating someone else whom she ended up marrying and since I don’t want to be reminded of that daily I’ve tried different ways to get her to leave me alone. From ignoring her for a week to saying I needed time away from her for a couple weeks and then straight up saying we shouldn’t talk nothing has worked. She knows my feelings as she told a friend she has for awhile now without me ever actually admitting it to her. I know a lot of people would say get a new job but I’ve worked years to get to where I am and I just don’t know what else to do.
TL;DR in love with my married coworker that won’t let me distance for my own good even though she knows my feelings.
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She is a coworker, you have to see her every work day. Live with it or change jobs. It’s not her job to make you feel better.
You could just go an like all her social media posts so her husband finds out and then he makes her change jobs.
go to HR and say you are uncomfortable around her and can she stay away unless work related.
Ask her to set you up with someone.
All bad ideas don’t do any of them.
Dont get a new job. Just cut contact. Only have professional contact at your place of work. Block her everywhere else. If she tries to talks about non work related things at work, cut her off politely but surely. If that behavior keeps up go the HR route.
It takes two people to have a conversation.
Also retrain your thoughts on her. This is a person that does not respect your boundaries. Also, just married but keeps someone around she knows has a crush on her. These are not good traits to have. Internalize that and make it part of the image you have of her.