Hi Reddit! I’m new but I need some advice.
My mother is one of the best people I know. She has always put me and my sister first, and I love her for that. We both still love ya home, though we’ll be out by the end of the year. She works hard and she’s kind and overall wonderful. She’s gotten the short end of the stick more times than I can count, but I’ve always tried my best to be there with her.
Anyway, lately, she’s been very depressed. She hates her job and I think part of her is upset that we’re moving out soon. I get it, you know? She’s all alone (my parents are divorced) and her family all lives in other parts of the state. I’ve tried to be understanding and there for her, but lately I’m getting frustrated. I’m tired of being berated day in and day out for everything. Nothing I do is enough, and one small mistake (forgetting to do the dishes, not putting my shoes in the closet) is the end of the world. I’m tired of being called a terrible daughter. Again, I’ve tried to be understanding because I know her depression is not about me. However, being yelled at all day long is starting to become mentally draining.
tl;dr my mom is depressed and I’m having a hard time figuring out how to help
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I kind of went through this right before my kid left for college. I was picking fights and being hyper critical because I was hoping it would make the move out easier on both of us. We were very close up until that point. It was killing me. Finally my kid, being more mature than me, sat down and scheduled a couple weekends to come home and Fridays I could go meet up for lunch.
Have you brought this up to her yet?