Just recently, I had this dream that I was friends with this certain acquaintance. And I was intrigued by why all of a sudden she pops up to me when I haven’t spoken to her since six months ago.
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TLDR: The OP started talking with this acquaintance again and wanted to continue where we left off. But OP is anxious because of what happened in the past, and the mistake was introducing her to a connection with an “ex-friend.”
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So to my context here, I was talking to this acquaintance, whom I met through a friend of a friend way back. She introduced me to her because we all have so much in common.
We met her through an online game. Back then, I still had my old circle of friends surrounding me. And probably the mistake that I have made is to introduce her to one of my ex-friends.
It was a short moment that we talked about things with the ‘other’ friend because we are playing together back then. As time went on, something happened to me with this ‘Ex-friend’ causing me to completely cut this person off.
Two months after that incident happened, I still try to make a connection with her by just showing up online at the game. We usually talk about things related to the game prior and have some casual talks about our lives. But I was having a major change at that time because I was focusing on my priorities.
And one time we talked about friends. And I briefly mentioned to her that I and this “ex-friend” were no longer friends. She was sad about it, and she also talks about her group of friends and their strong bond. I was afraid to share more about it because of the trauma caused by this ex-friend, and I might think that at some point they talked about me and made negative impressions on me. (Me and this ex-friend did not part on good terms.)
Although I admit I was a bit toxic back then when I was with the ex-friend I was hanging out with. And to be honest, I think that hinders me from having a connection with this acquaintance. I felt bad because I don’t have much confidence to work it around that time. But now I’ve been changing myself for the better.
As much as I remember, she had mentioned that we should be hanging out sometime and added me to her Discord account to talk about playing other games. But it never happened, and I guess life just happens between us.
Time had passed, and I hadn’t had a chance to talk to her for months. I have a hobby to keep me on track, and I casually update it on my social media profile. She has seen some of my stories about it. Then suddenly, one time, that “dream” just appeared to me.
And now, I think I’m confident enough to approach her again by sending a message, although I have yet to see her response. I know it takes time to have a response from someone, and I’m anxious about it since it’s been awhile.
Do you guys perhaps have an acquaintance story that turned into a lifelong friendship? I would love to hear your story.