I’ve always kinda felt this way. I feel like if I don’t reach out, I’ll never hear from any of my friends. It feels very rare that someone reaches out asking to hang with me or see what I’m up to/sending me stuff.
I used to reach out a lot but I’m just tired. I feel like I just bother people a lot especially when they turned down hanging with me/make plans excluding me. I just want to feel like people want to be with me and that I’m a desirable person to be friends with.
I’ve struggled with depression my whole life for my issues with handling friendships. I don’t respond that soon anymore (sometimes takes a few days/up to a week. I have a therapist and I’m working on it, but I just feel like I have no friends I can hang with on a regular basis. Doesn’t help when I see people posting things with their friends online.
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I feel that way too . A lot of the time people are waiting for others to initiate. So it may be normal .
I actually felt that way when i was in college. Things changed where people ask me to hang out now and i feel i can do social things when i want to. i realized that my life at the time was set up in a way where isolating activities like studying, living in a college town full of people who leave or who only hang out with People from their high school really had an effect on me. Besides, I had a lack of initiative from depression and straight up lack of knowledge regarding what activities would actually provide me with social activities that were 1) logistically accomodating to my symptoms of depression, and 2) Were with people around my age who were there to socialize but for mental health reasons, whether it was through a therapeutic program or an organization regarding some type of mental health services
Friendships are only friendships when both sides try at it. Still friendships do change and sometimes friendships break down. Sometimes life long ones are worth keeping trying. When you’re depressed people sense it even if you don’t know it and sometimes it can make isolation.