What you think is the most important thing to do before turning 30?

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1. Turn 29

2. Get all of your assignments and work done and submit vacation time off for the day after so you can party late on your birthday

3. Learning to self reflect and grow in the ways you want to grow as a person without relying on others for motivation or validation is huge, and it’s a good idea no matter what age someone decides to do it

4. Invest

5. start saving up, get financially literate, develop some financial goals that will benefit you in retirement.

6. Leave the toxic friendships behind you and learn to recognize what led you to the point in the first place so you never repeat it. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it’s hard work. But it remains the most important thing I did for myself before my 30s, hands down.

   I was hanging on to a few friendships that SHOULD have naturally run their course and faded after high school, but didn’t. Instead, these relationships hung on and festered in a toxic soup for years, weighing both of us down (my friend and I) and getting worse and worse. The truth is that we were both growing in different directions, but had been conditioned to believe that friendships were lifelong bonds that never ever ever end. So we kept it together. Eventually, around my late 20s I asked myself what I wanted my 30s to look like. Did I want this same toxic bullshit (all in the name of “friendship”)? Or did i want to break it off and allow myself to grow into what I want? Even if that means being alone? I’m 35 now, and things have only gotten better in my life/relationships/mental health (and especially my relationship to myself) as a result of this decision. No regrets.

   Also, start saving your money on a monthly basis NOW, not later. Having a healthy savings will help you immensely down the way.

7. Become comfortable with being alone. Develop at least one hobby. Feel confident in what makes you happy.

8. Contribute to 401k, set up 6 month emergency fund.

9. Discard the idea that there’s anything you can’t do once you’re 30

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11. Set up an emergency fund.

12. Know yourself.

13. Figure out exactly who you are and what you want. And learn to not be willing to settle.

14. Stop thinking 30 is the end all be all age.

15. Plan a really fun party!

16. Overworking at expense of quality time with loved ones, your health, mental stability not going to give a quality life.

17. EMDR therapy… I’m about to be 24 and I’m a few months into it and honestly it gives chaos but before you run away hear me out. It is one of the hardest things I think I have ever experienced in my life and I told myself about 8 months ago that I was going to seriously dedicate time to heal internally so I can flourish externally. The amount of control I’ve noticed myself gaining over my mentality is just beautiful. Sometimes it’s feels like processing the trauma is harder than going through the trauma when it happened but there is this flame inside me that is getting brighter and I never forget it in those moments. That flame is what will carry me through the darkness… I don’t know I just think there’s something to be said about healing your inner child before trying to be in a relationship with another persons child, let alone having children with that person

18. Not get married unless you’re really, really sure. I’d recommend living together and traveling together and going to pre marital counseling before even considering it. Especially if you’re here in the states. Divorce is really expensive and a long drawn out process here.

19. Save whatever money you can

20. Maybe I’m just scarred from an abusive childhood/early adulthood but man my 30’s have been the best years of my life. Just some wisdom from a 35 year old

    – go to therapy (shop around for therapists/find one that fits you)

    – learn to love yourself/ be ok being alone

    – don’t let anyone tell you that you need a man (or any kind of relationship for that matter) or children to be acceptable to society, and if those are things you want make sure you really understand the repercussions/consequences those desires incur.

    – travel, find out why you are who you are the only way to do that is to challenge yourself in other states, other countries, other backgrounds.

    – act like a kid when you feel like it…we’re all only acting like we have this adult thing figured out.

    – be kind not nice. Kindness means there are boundaries, “niceness” usually means you’re getting run over and you’ll eventually burn out of niceness.

    – recognize your value and walk away from any position, relationship, etc that does not value you the way they should.

    – always be open minded and willing to learn new things.

    I wouldn’t necessarily say there’s anything I would do before 30 (except travel if you the funds to do it) but I’d be on the path to these things if I had it to do all over.

21. I’m turning 26 in 2 days and I’m gonna say yoga. My mobility is so bad now right now & it hurts lol

22. I’m only 20, but acknowledging that 30 isn’t old. You still have plenty of life left, go out and do the things you wanna do.

23. Commit to your retirement. Max out your employer’s 401k (equivalent). If your employer doesn’t offer one, set aside at least 10% of your take home pay into a ROTH IRA.

    All the unimportant things now will impact your finances later.

    Really. I am not joking.

24. Develop a solid multi step skincare routine

25. Learn to not give a damn about other people’s opinions about you.

    Get truly comfortable in your own skin and accept yourself in everything that your are.

    Learn to do everything that you need in your daily life yourself – on other words become self-sufficent to the point where you stick with people because you want to, not because you need to. Also, learn to do as much beauty procedures as you can to make sure that you are never dependent on a specialist in order to look decently good for any occasion.
    Learn to take care of your material possessions. Learn to fix/repair things.

    I would really highlight the need for self-sufficiency, it opens the whole world for you. You become a person that is truly independent in all ways and never needs to wait for someone to join in order to do whatever you want 😉 IMHO, if such person chooses someone as a friend or partner, it means that the relationship is truly meaningful.

26. Have you read the 4 agreements? It’s a quick read. Def do that!

27. Understand that there’s no need to panic, you can probably do that thing after you’re 30

28. Not being married to continue enjoying your adulthood