I(26 M) met this amazing girl(24F) a month ago. Everything is great, our chemistry is off the roof. We vibe/bond well. However, on multiple occasions I found it super hard to maintain a hard on and have sex. I only had good sex with her a couple of times, the usual case is me not getting hard. This Ed issue never happened to me before.
I’m an anxious person in general, so I’m guessing it’s performance anxiety. But wanted to get others opinion on it, and see how I can improve.
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If you can get an erection masturbating, or morning wood in the morning, this is very class performance anxiety
Just give it time, go slow, let yourself relax. And you’ll be hard as a rock
Stress is a pretty common reason for a lot of sexual issues, so if you’ve had a lot of extra stress lately, that could contribute. You should talk to this girl, and probably first of all reassure her it’s not her fault. Sex is obviously a touchy subject sometimes so she might be feeling that you don’t find her attractive. If you’re feeling anxious, talking through specific anxieties and how to fix them could help. I know that’s probably a lot of a month long relationship, though. There’s always things like aphrodisiacs. I don’t have a dick, but even the cheap sex chocolates have helped me.
Women aren’t ice water. Just talk with her & she should help you ease into it or at least understand better. Good luck l
Hormone levels are a main driver in desire. If the desire is there but anxiety is getting in the way, that can lead to ED issues. The best thing you can do is get out of your own head. Stay in the moment and have no expectations.
Relax and take your time. Plenty of time. No pressure. How is she reacting? If she appears to be understading, that’s a golden trait right there. If it starts to go soft, go for other body parts. Or a long massage, for instance. Or just talk a bit within this intimate moment and get back on track once you’re ready again as it will harden on its own once you let the mental pressure go.
Had that happen numerous times. Time ans relaxation is key.
If you’re taking any medications, look up the side effects. This just hapoened to me, so this is why I bring it up.
What do you typically do to get hard? You may just need more foreplay (on you)