I (25f) have been dating this guy for a while now. As the title states when should I or should I not let him know I’m a virgin. The most we’ve done is make out heavily and I get freaked out and stop at just making out, I want to go further but get freaked out and stop. I get freaked out because I’m afraid I won’t be good at having sex or I’ll do something wrong. Also I’m worried if I tell him it’ll freak him out and he’ll feel too much “pressure” it being my first time. Idk just searching for any advice or tips on what to do! Thanks!
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There are a lot of steps between makeout and actual intercourse. Generally categorized into ‘bases’.
I’d suggest you first comfortable going second base with him and then tell him before going to third base. Immediately before sex is too late and if you have only made out then it’s too early.
You can tell him whenever you want.
Any time now.
Define awhile? It typically works better when they try to go somewhere I.e bases then you tell them no in some awkward way of midway… ‘I have something to tell you….. I am a virgin’. That’s more normal in my experience.
having sex (if you’re a male with a least a bit of experience already) with a virgin female is usually pretty unremarkable and disappointing. just tell him whenever. don’t worry about not being ‘good’. you’re definitely not going to be ‘good’. that’s just the way it is. you have literally zero experience so you don’t even know what you like yet. the sooner you get into it the sooner you can start (potentially) enjoying it
Why do you have to tell him? Seriously? Sex is supposed to be a natural progression from other intimate acts. It makes no difference whether you tell him or not indeed it is more likely to add pressure on both sides. Tell him afterwards.
dont tell him. surprise him
First date
Trust me, most women out there aren’t great at sex anyways so the performance won’t be an issue. The blood though, you should probably be warn them yeah.