We’ve been together for a long time, and it really only started bothering me recently, but often times, when I get hungry and decide to grab something, she says she doesn’t want any but when the food arrives she can’t stop eating from my food.
That’s all good and all, so now I try to order more food than I can finish to account for her appetite, but she gets mad at me and tries to stop me from ordering more food. I don’t get it.
TL;DR;
Annoyed that my wife says things she doesn’t mean, which leaves me hungry.
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Sounds like it’s just become her habit. Order more food. I promise she won’t divorce you over fries.
Often seeing and smelling food makes a person hungry. And some people are bad at judging their own internal states like hunger. The real issue here is that she gets angry at you for ordering more food. So, I would talk to her about that and ask her to not get angry, because there is a clear pattern. But she may be doing this out of food-related shame. Sadly, many people are raised with a lot of unhealthy views around food and eating. If she is ashamed to be hungry or eating, then she needs to work on being able to love and accept her need and desire to eat food.
A lot of people seem to do this. Particularly women, and I’m not sure why.
I’m a woman and I’d never do it to anyone.
It’s really selfish and inconsiderate.
I’m not sure WHY they do it. Poor judgement of their own needs. Shame around food intake due to beauty standards. Who knows.
You need to sit her down and talk to her about it.
What she’s doing is incredibly rude, and it needs to stop.
And until she stops? Either you’ll be ordering extra food as you have been, you’ll stop sharing your food with her at all, or you’ll stop eating with her in public. Which would she rather?
What did she say when you talked to her about it?
I think it’s some kind of primitive mannerism that humans still maintain, where if you’re part of the tripe you can eat my food, but it’s just a theory, seriously now it’s a way to get intimate with you, one of the ways one of the love languages, if you let her eat your food it’s like saying you love her.
Cause a voice in my head said that as a woman you should be watching your figure and not eating takeaways, but when the food arrives it smells so good I cannot resist. So the overall agreement in my head is I order smth smaller.
Look at all the mental gymnastics. She is being childish. Tell her if she doesn’t order, she doesn’t get.
I think the basic philosophy is…
I’m on a diet, I don’t want to order all that food… but I am hungry. I’ll just have a little from their plate but it doesn’t really count because I didn’t order anything.