I suck at that stuff and I think I want to get to know the person instead of just sending them nudes, but if the majority of people on Tinder only want that so I’m feeling like a major virgin. Another factor is that I’m feeling really bad about my body lately. Idk just wanted to ask if I am indeed a major virgin
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I always move to talking on the phone as fast as possible.
You shouldn’t even send nudes to people you trust much less strangers you just barely matched with.
It’s not weird, it’s just that they want different things and you want different things.
So rather than fit yourself to accommodate others, you would do better if you find someone who accepts you for who you are, someone who also wants to know you before any sexting, picture-sending or spicy chats.
Do you want a relationship or just sex? If you want anything more than just sex, it makes sense not to blast nudes at people the first time you talk to them. At least see if they’ve got anything under the surface.
Noooooo…preditors will encourage you to do things that make you uncomfortable to push your boundries.
I don’t like to sext or send nudes, either. You should never do what isn’t enjoyable for you.
It isn’t weird at all. Typically people wanting to sext and receive nudes are just wanting to meet for sex, nothing more, versus getting to know a person. They are letting you know what they are interested in. Anyone wanting to get to know you won’t ask for anything like this right away, maybe even not for the first few months.
As for nudes, I wouldn’t send nudes even if it was my husband and we had been married for decades, much less a stranger on Tinder. I didn’t realize the ease at which nudes were sent (and even expected) until a few years ago. It’s pretty common, but it’s strange to me.
Never sext or send nudes.
Literally the opposite, trying to do those things will be seen as weird
Sending nudes to strangers, you never met in particular, is not the norm. Don’t let others judge where your boundaries should be anyway; even if that was the norm, do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t let people take advantage of your inexperience.
I made the mistake of sending nudes & doing things I never would have done with a guy I met on tinder (and didn’t meet in person). Makes me cringe whenever I remember it. That wasn’t my best self worth moment in time.
If people just want nudes, they just want sex, and not a relationship. Don’t ever send out nudes to people.
I never, ever send nudes. Not even to someone I know and trust. Because you never know if those pics might leak. I might send someone a slightly spicy pic, but it’s got to be something where if it leaks I won’t be too bothered if people I know see it.
Nope, not weird. Met my husband off of Tinder, never sent nudes or sexted.
I’m a guy and i don’t like sexting or sending nudes either, people just have preferences and if someone doesn’t like it then too bad so sad lol
You might also look up the concept of demisexuality. Might apply a little bit. Maybe, maybe not.
EDIT: I say this as someone who is *very* demi and the concept of sending nudes to people I’m not in a LTR with is so totally foreign to my mind that I can only just assume that some people actually do like that, I guess
No, not weird. In fact, very smart and the right thing to do.
Tinder is a cesspool. It is full of guys who think it’s DoorDash but for sex. They think they’re just going to log on and naked women are just going to show up, either in real life or in pics. I’m so glad you’re not encouraging that crap.
Take time to meet someone who wants to be with you for the right reasons. You’re worth it.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin until you find that person.
Not weird of you. Not one bit. I suggest the moment they ask, or even the tiniest hint that they are there for hook up, and only a hook up, then to immediately un match.
No. Don’t let anyone guilt you for it
No, the sexting and sending nudes thing is weird.
If you think about it, it’s probably the dumbest thing anyone can do.. it can ruin your life.
Not at all. You have self respect. Never send nudes to anyone. Ever. They can always be used against you.
If you’re a virgin or not isn’t something you should be asking others.. also no, it’s not weird
That’s not weird at all, honestly people who just wanna do that stuff are in my opinion not worth getting to know. Also, maybe you could try another dating app? There are other apps out there catered more to those who are looking for something more serious. And it doesn’t make you a”major virgin”, it just means you want a deeper connection, which is nothing wrong. I would personally never send nudes or anything like to someone I haven’t even met.