So while I was in Thailand last week, I met a cute polish girl and we clicked very well from the first date. We just had an incredible time together, going bar to bar, dancing together, talking for hours by the beach. We rinsed and repeated this the next day, until late at night things got steamy and so I took her back to my hotel where we had sex. I thought the sex was great, nothing really awkward until mid-way through she stops and tells me that she’s in so much pain that she has to leave. I tried to comfort her but she insisted on leaving, so I said okay that’s fine if you need anything let me know. As she leaves, I check there’s some blood so she confirmed the next morning she has her period.
I didn’t want to be too intrusive, but I asked about how she was feeling, and I also dropped her a goodie bag full of treats, snacks and some medicine to her hotel reception (I didn’t even knock on her door). She didn’t want to meet up at all, which I understood, so I kind of let her be.
Two days later, and she was still being a bit distant so I assumed it’s normal behavior after her period. I said if she wanted to hang out for a bit because I was leaving Thailand, but she said she couldn’t.
Then I check her profile on Tinder, and she updated her photos, and added something about “Not looking to date shorter guys”. She’s 172 and I’m 179 so I assume she wasn’t talking about me, but it was a red flag to me that she was updating her profile.
And so that’s it really. I don’t know where it all went wrong, when everything felt so right. We were holding hands all the time, talking, eating out together, and just felt so connected.
What should I do from here? I’ve started to distance myself ever since she updated her profile.
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Sounds like a holiday fling. What countries do you both reside in? Wouldn’t say it’s a red flag unless you discussed exclusivity or whatever, but assuming you live in different countries and nothing was agreed, then it just seems like “it was fun while it lasted”
>until mid-way through she stops and tells me that she’s in so much pain that she has to leave.
Sex with you was painful (maybe you’re too big, you stick it in a wrong angle, didn’t get her wet enough or didn’t use lube, whatever). She’s not wanting to do it again with you any time soon.
Holiday ONS. Happens all the time. Sex was bad for her, she’s cut ties and moved onto the next. So should you.
Here’s your sign…