My mother in law has always undermined me and disrespected me as a mother. When I asked her not to kiss my newborn, she did so in front of me and got an attitude with my husband about it.
Instead of being called grandma, she pitched a fit and threatened to distance herself because she did not want to be called this. She wanted to have her name and then mama next to it. I did not like and her other children did not like it. So we agreed she would be called mama. She has no relationship with my daughter and has not even fed her a bottle. Then will make smart ass comments about how she gets to see her other grandchildren more. I have never prevented her from seeing my daughter.
Fast forward to today and we received a card in the mail and she signed it with mama instead of mawmaw. I want to text her and let her know that I am done with her crossing my boundaries as a mother. But I do not want to rock the boat. Advice? Has anyone else dealt with this?
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Jokes about MILs exist for a reason. Either you are not letting your husband do his job or he simply is avoiding doing his job. Bottom line is he needs to defend his wife and children’s feelings and interests pertaining to his parents. He must do so without any of your direct involvement.
You handle these situations by telling your husband how you feel. Now, sometimes you need to roll with it, other times he needs to step up.
Add to this, he can’t say you have the issue. He can’t say “well you know I am ok with it but [wife] is upset so please don’t do it.”