Men who have friends in their adult lives (especially after work), how do you make new friends?

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1. On the Disc Golf course

2. I meet my friends friends

3. Hobbies are the easiest way to meet potentially new friends and or acquaintances.

   The hardest way is just going door to door in your neighborhood and asking if you can be friends. I’ve seen a ballsy move where you just cold call from a phone book and ask if they would like to talk about dinosaurs. It was in an animated movie but it still stuck with me.

4. Another vote for hobbies.

5. Pick a place you like and then work up the confidence to talk to other people there. The first thing I did was become friends with the employees there. That way every time I came in, I’d have a face and name to make it feel like I belonged there. It made it easier to feel like the other customers would be just as easy to speak with (and generally they have been).

6. I have made a lot of friends from work. Find someone at work you click with and ask about their life. You will have something in common and do that.

   Met golf buddies, gaming buddies, movie buddies and even Vegas buddies from work.

7. Explore your interests.

   The friends I’ve made in my adult life came from pursuing my hobbies, meeting people with similar interests, and then pursuing those relationships.

   For instance I used to play Pokemon Go with a guy, really cool dude, too cool to want to hang out with me. But then I found out he likes bourbon and hiking, two other things I enjoy. So we planned a bourbon tasting, then a hike.

   Then he invited one of his friends along for a hike and we both care about environmentalism and love food culture so we ended up getting on.

   My original friend ended up getting me into Magic the Gathering which gave me something in common with a guy at work who I ended up forming a friendship with.

   Another guy at work found out I was into DnD and reached out to ask if I wanted to join his table, now this summer he wants my help setting up and testing out his new smoker.

   Just do what makes you happy and be the best version of yourself and you’ll draw like-minded people to you.

8. Joined a sports team

9. Show up somewhere regularly and slowly build these connections with others who show up in the same place regularly. Which is basically the same way we found friends as children. “You’re doing this thing that I am also doing/you are in this place where I’m also at and that regularly, let’s see if we have even more in common.”