I’ve had 4 partners and I’m 26 F. I’m starting to wonder why I don’t orgasm. If men can’t make me orgasm.. then does that mean I’m a lesbian? I was only attracted to one guy, but once he started showing his anger problems that went away. I don’t enjoy sex at all, it seems like a huge waste of time for me and like I’m just being used. It’s like a performance. I try telling these dudes I’m not turned on or I’m dry, and they just use hella lube and force it. And it still sucks. My vibrator does a better job but even then I’m not sure that I’m orgasming. How do I know?
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If you aren’t at a place where this happens on your own, it’s very unlikely its going to happen with a partner. Might be time to focus on your own self discovery and learn how YOU like things, then bring in someone else to show them.
Also, don’t put up with guys who don’t care about your pleasure. You say “im dry” and their answer is anything short of “omg, lets stop until we have you in a better spot”? Kick them out of that bed and never look back. Not worth your time at all.
For sure practice masturbating first. With and without vibrators. You will know it when you orgasm, it’s like 100x stronger of a feeling than the rest of the session. I am a mostly straight woman, but the first person to ever make me orgasm was another woman. 15 men werent able to. Now i am with a man who can make me come consistently, but it takes about 20 minutes of constant oral to get there. He is willing to do it. You need to find out what works for you (by self exploration) and then find someone willing to spend the time learning how to please you and put in the effort to do it.
Check your testosterone levels if they are too low it might help to take some supplements. Talk to your doc.
If you can’t make yourself orgasm, it’s not likely men will be able to make you orgasm… You don’t know what you like.
Any guy that don’t care when you tell them you’re still try or not ready and try to pressure you into continuing is a huge red flag at best or straight up assaulting you. Don’t stay with them, leave.
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fter 21 minutes of foreplay. It sounds like they arent warming you up enough.