Hi,
sorry for the terrible english, wrote this in a hurry!
Last year i (26 F) got married to my then boyfriend ( 28 M). And he is the kind of husband you see in movies. The kind that gets flowers not just on occasions but whenever he can, makes coffee the minute i wake up , goes above and beyond to give wings to my dreams, empowers me, fights for me and would definitely take a bullet for me.
I love him beyond words. He makes my heart full and I look forward to sleeping in his arms at the end of the day. It’s just that even though our life is so beautiful, there is hardly any sex ever. Now before we got married, he made it clear to me that this is something that he just isn’t interested in and i was okay with it. But sometimes i do want to have sex, no matter how much i mastrubate. I have tried everything from lingerie, costumes, messages, anything and everything but he just isn’t interested. He does try to give in sometimes but only when i’m asking a lot, and he makes it a point to ensure that i’m happy. I don’t know what i could do to get him atleast a little bit interested, atleast once a month. I want to improve this without hurting him because he is an angel. I need to know if anyone has faced something similar and if yes then how do i deal with this ? or am i being selfish ?
3 comments
See if you can get him interested in giving you oral sex. Maybe even straddle his face if he is not sure about giving oral sex. Hope this helps. A lot of guys really love giving oral sex.
He was clear about this and you agreed to it. IMO, if you have regrets, it is not his responsibility to change to suit you. You either have to learn to accept what you agreed to, or tell him and see if any alternative arrangement can be made.
So, seeing he has zero interest, would he allow you to seek that elsewhere? I am not suggesting behind his back, but as a discussion so that your reds are also met.