Like the title says, I’m a 20 year old male who has not had a natural erection in 2 years. Pathetic, I know. I already feel worthless enough, especially since I did this to myself. I’ve watched porn daily, sometimes multiple since I was 12. I also jacked off using death grip. In September 2021 I got my first ever girlfriend but we never had sex because I never got hard. Even with her on top of me kissing I just couldn’t do it. I’m decently fit aswell, though I’ve become inconsistent in my fitness routine I am 5’8 and 150lbs, athletic build. I can’t remember the last time I had morning wood. The only way for me to get hard is to watch porn and basically force myself too, and even then it’s about a 75% strength. ANY advice you can give will help. Obviously I’ve cut out porn and masturbation but to no avail. I’m afraid I’ve broken myself and will never get a chance to experience what every other human gets to. If this is truly the case I won’t be here much longer.
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are you on any meds? could be a side effect of the meds
Bro, you’re young. And there is still time to figure this out. Have you talked with a urologist? Start with seeing a doctor, get some testing done. It may be something completely unrelated to your past.
A few things.
Any meds now that could be doing it?
Have you talked to a doc?
ED is almost always psychological.
Boner pills ftw. You’re not too young for them. Talk to your doc.
You need to be seen by a urologist. This could be treatable or it could be an indicator that you have an undiagnosed medical issue.
Urologists are one of the easiest professionals that you can talk with about sexual function. They have seen and heard absolutely EVERYTHING!
They just don’t care and you have no reason to be embarrassed.
There are options available for almost any type of degree of dysfunction.
‘I did this to myself’ – it’s not your fault porn is so easily available to young people these days. You were a child, with a child’s curiosity and lack of self control. Start by forgiving yourself.
I’ve no idea how you undo the damage, but the only thing I can think of is to consume the opposite of porn – romance books and films.
Testosterone check. Do simple blood exam.
How long has it been since you cut out porn and masturbation? It will take some time, perhaps many months