I’ve been dating this wonderful guy for a year now. We’re planning on introducing each other to our parents this summer and afterwards watching the northern lights together.
Recently, I’ve been noticing that he’s being less affectionate towards me.
For example, every morning before work he usually texts, “good morning babe/cutie, I love you” etc…..
Now he usually says, “good morning”
Yesterday, when we were calling he didn’t say I love you. He texted “I love you”.
I want to bring it up, but I know he’s currently going through a lot of stress. What should I do?
TL;DR: my boyfriend isn’t saying I love you as much.
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Sounds like the normal progression of a relationship to me.
You’re overthinking and maybe being a bit needy. You already said he’s going through a stressful time, be his rock, not a source of more stress.
If you want to talk to him anyway you can start a dialogue about what you need from each other to feel loved and express that you feel your needs aren’t being met. Have a conversation about what your expectations are and discuss his needs and expectations as well.
It could be that you’re overthinking and its nothing.
It could also be that he’s withdrawing.
Either way, its important to consider your needs (e.g. consistent affection) and whether he’s able to deliver over a longer period of time.
If he’s withdrawing, then you can mention it. Don’t overextend yourself, change yourself, or in any other way be dishonest with yourself about who you are or what your needs are for this guy (or any other guy).
Do not bring this up because it is a non-issue. He’s under a lot of stress and naturally has less energy to be extremely affectionate. It happens.
I’m a little more concerned you think you’re going to see the northern lights in the summer.