38 m-spec cis man here. My partner (34 m-spec cis f) and I are opening up our relationship to separate encounters.
I have matched with a couple enby and gender fluid folks. Things haven’t gotten spicy yet, and before they do I was wanting some advice on sexy talk.
I would hate for a flirtatious comment to make someone feel self conscious, marginalized, or erased. I am also completely prepared to communicate and say, “I want to do some spicy txting if your open to it. What are the best ways for me to talk about your body and how I would like to please it in a way that turns you on?”
Curious what other thoughts are out there and would love to hear from non-cis folk about their experiences here.
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you’re totally in the right for asking because it’s highly specific to the individual. I’m non binary but prefer feminine terms being used for me during sex just because it makes me comfortable. some nb people will want masc, some neither.
also, don’t be scared of messing up. it happens, as long as it wasn’t in bad faith and you’re willing to keep trying, you’re fine