Context –
At some point in our relationship, I found out my husband had been watching porn and looking for erotic massage parlors. I get the porn maybe being a guy thing, but not the latter.
Blamed it on some sexual frustration (I’d been busy with work) and other mental health issues. I’m now extremely mistrustful and keep thinking he’s having affairs with women and worrying about all sorts of things. How do you move past that and trust again?
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Takes time therapy patience and love ,had the same issue!
What has he done to prove to you that you can trust him? How has he made up for betraying your trust?
Thank you! I’m hoping it’s actually nipped in the bud and doesn’t just appear that way. That’s the problem, I have lost the ability to just believe there’s nothing more to these situations.
Both read:
How to help your Spouse heal from your Agfair my MacDonald. He agrees to every chapter or it won’t work.
Five Love Languages and speak each others LL. It works.
Love and Respect. I did an audiobook.
Then he needs to recommend the next book or video series. He better take initiative or it’s over.
I need to be a devil’s advocate here. Yes, looking for massage parlor is a little out of line, but how do majority of the women not know that “touch” is most men’s love language. Having sex is how men feel wanted and crave it like a drug. When we don’t get touch, sex or attention from our wives, we feel betrayed, hurt powerless at times. So the question also is how long have you been making him feel this way to lead to this?
It’ll never be the same. Even if you rebuild, there will always be doubt in the back of your mind. That’s the price you pay for choosing to continue the relationship. A broken foundation cannot be rebuilt the same.