Hi! So I had my first ever date back on the 10th with this gorgeous gal in a cafe. She’s finishing her Masters in Computer Science currently so is naturally very busy. I speak her native language very basically (She’s Russian) which is probably what secured the initial date in the first place (I met her on Tinder).
Anyway, I’ve been chatting to her every day up until the 16th, where I asked about arranging another date – she said she wasn’t sure and was really busy for the time being, which, given she’s finishing her Masters’ degree, makes sense. I said that was okay and we could wait until after she’d finished her studies in May, but she hasn’t responded to this.
I get the impression she’s one who wants to take things slowly and isn’t looking for something casual (that’s just as well as I’m looking for something serious also). I saw her make a public post on her FB story about still “not being married yet”, so maybe it’s fair enough she’d want to not date some dude she just met while she finishes her thesis or whatever.
But, uh – about Facebook. It’s the one thing I don’t like about her. She post DAILY on her story on stuff she does – like last weekend where I saw her out with friends at a carnival, and then a few hours later of her working on her computer with her friends to the side of her, or today, doing baking in preparation for Orthodox Easter. I get having a life outside of me and I’m just some dude, but maybe I’m looking at this too generously.
Honestly, I think writing this out to myself has told me what I need to do – but I did originally have a plan to message her again in May, after her studies were over, and give her an out in the message, and if she takes it I’ll absolutely stop. I’m already talking to other girls, but I’d definitely choose her over them.
So is messaging her again in May worth doing, or should I just stop and move onto somebody else?
Thanks for reading!