I have full blown conversations with myself… is this normal?

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1. The 4 out of 5 voices in my head say yes

2. I do this too which leads me to think that it is normal and shared among many others.

3. I do it quite often, so thats perfectly fine if you ask me.

4. I used to do that a lot. It stems from low confidence. Its name is maladaptive daydreaming. Sometimes when people at work infuriates me or doesn’t appreciate my worth, I go back home and bury myself in daydreams where I talk to myself out loud and act like I am way better than who I currently am. It gives me a boost of confidence that I like to feel when I am down.

5. Sounds like Fantasy Prone Personality, which can also become maladaptive daydreaming.

   The real risk with it is if the daydreaming becomes more important to you than living your real life.

   But there’s lots of ways to keep daydreaming that are okay! It’s a bit dissociative and a coping mechanism. But again the problem is if the line between reality and fantasy blur, or your priorities get messed up. If that’s not happening though, imho there’s nothing wrong with it.

   It’s definitely worth reading about if you want to make sure you keep it a healthy habit.

6. Yes, perfectly normal

7. I do it too, especially arguing or having some sort of speech. I’m actually a pretty quiet person, and I think for me it’s frustration over not having the chance to fully express myself without fearing the consequences (or, if there are no consequences, then having a fair conversation where I’m not cut off or ignored). Mine is more spontaneous though, usually done in front of a mirror, taking a mental break from something, or in need to bounce off an idea or argument that I don’t think the people around me would understand or want to engage in. For me it isn’t low self-esteem, but feeling like I can’t connect the way I wish I could.

8. You should ask yourself that question

9. I do this all the time. Sometimes I realize it’s things I wish I could say to people but don’t so I guess it’s like an outlet

10. Maybe funneling this imagination and turning into writing books could be healthy.

11. This is maladaptive daydreaming. You’re not alone <3

12. honestly I do this and don’t think it’s normal or healthy..

    https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/maladaptive-daydreaming#causes

13. I mean… I practice out loud when I know I’m going to have a piece of dialog that’s crucial. That way I’m better prepared to talk when it comes to stuff like

    -asking for a raise

    -quiting a job

    -preparing for a job interview

    -breaking up with someone

    -getting together with someone else

    -proposing to that someone else

    -saying wedding vows to that someone else.

    (All in that order, lol.)

    I also cuss out my car when I’m fixing a major problem for the 5000th time, so….

    I don’t think it’s too bad to talk to yourself in little ways here and there in moderation. But if you act like there’s an invisible person always next to you, you’re probably gonna have/already have some problems that you need to fix.

14. I have two kinds of experiences:

    * On one hand, for a period of time I was a median system. Basically two people co-piloting a plane together. Unlike a full multiple system, one half of me didn’t “black out” when my other half took over. So together we just lived through life, with one of us taking over and our personality shifting based on whoever was fronting. We had some very serious conversations and the short story is that I’m 1.5 people now instead of 2 after a partial merging of identities. This .. I don’t know if it’s a mental illness, but it’s certainly not something we’ve heard many other people having.

    * On the other hand, I enjoy sometimes pretending I’m doing a livestream when we’re doing chores and stuff. I have my own persona that I mentally kind of act through while doing groceries or filling up gas etc. This is more like an active daydream character that I build rather than being an involuntary neighbour/sibling that I fight with.

    I hope this distinction helps for understanding your own position! And I hope it helps anyone else in a median system too.

15. I daydream having funny conversations of things that never happened with friends that don’t exist. Or that a therapist (voice in my head) is asking me deep & personal questions about my life, jut life, etc. and I answer back. I don’t know if it’s normal for normal people. But my 2 cents is it is normal for people who don’t have a lot of social connections.

16. Yes I have done this and I act like I’m being interviewed and even fake cry. I used to be an actress so maybe a part of me longs for that but idk.

17. It’s normal, though that doesn’t mean that everyone else does it. The key is that you aren’t “pulled into it” against your will, and that you can distinguish what happens in your daydreams from reality.

    It can become disruptive in that you may wish to spend time in the stories as opposed to other activities, but engaging in it isn’t completely out of your control. I am not great at being spontaneous because I will get annoyed if I get invited to do something on a night when I was planning to spend five hours in my head 🙂

    You’re okay—you’re Anne of Green Gables!

18. Hi, u need to search about Maladaptive Daydreaming (MD). It’s not labeled as a mental disorder yet. I am a maladaptive daydreamer as well.

    suggest u start meditating, no it’s not healthy. It took me a lot of time to convince myself that too. Ik it feels great to be that character but its hurting reality.

19. Same 😅

20. i think you’re just an introvert who uses visualization to think things through.

21. Perfectly find to me, I also do this like a mini escape from real life. We know it’s not real but it’s like playing pretend.