Dear Reddit, Do/ should women go on first dates while on that time of the month? .. why?

21 comments

1. Why shouldn’t they?

2. Depends on what their intentions are, nothing serious with some fun after? Not the best plan. Looking to fit better together and moee serious? Sure, it shouldn’t stop them from doing what they want to.

3. I mean…it’s up to them

4. It’s like I always say, everyone is different so it just depends on them and if they’re comfortable or not 🤷🏻‍♂️

5. Why ask us? It’s up to them. We don’t control how women think or act.

   Also how would we even know without them telling us?

   This question….

   EDIT

   Was going to ask why not ask this question on a woman subreddit? Then I checked OPs post/comment history and she did and they gave her the answer she wanted.

   Which still makes posting this here odd and redundant.

6. In my 20s I hooked up with a girl I had met that night.

   It was that time of the month.

   I wish she had told me. It was kind of awkward running into tamponS (plural) and then having to rush to find a towel to put under her. (We fucked on the carpeted living room floor.)

   This is 45 y/o me looking back on it though. At the time we were both happily drunk and having fun. It’s kind of affirming to know she wanted to fuck so bad that she didn’t bring it up. Probably worried that I’d get turned off.

7. … if they want to

8. Just let your date know in advance…

   Hey babe, just so you know, I’m on the blob so you’re only getting a blowie. See you later ❤️❤️

   /s

9. Absolutely not

10. I can’t say I give a fuck. Just let me know when you wanna reschedule if you don’t want to.

11. Something tells me she should be able to know this herself.

    If it messes up her chances of making things work with her date, she knew that this can have some sort of significant influence on herself but she still went, she cannot later blame it onto that.

    If she thinks it is irrelevant and it turns out to hold true – great, more power to you.

    I guess there is also a strong individual component in this.

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    **TL;DR**: Don’t try to load this off on men, you decide that for yourself and live with the consequences.

12. Assuming she doesn’t get cramps so bad she doesn’t want to leave the house or something I don’t see why not. No reason they should force themselves to go or not go over a period, just do whatever makes sense for them.

13. Yes? I can’t see how that would change anything.

    Unless they’re in pain, then I wouldn’t want them to be uncomfortable for the sake of a date. I’d just ask to reschedule it.

14. I don’t think it matters at all.

    Only time it could be even remotely an issue is if you guys go to hook up and one of yall doesn’t like period sex.

15. Does she take it up the butt?

    Inappropriate jokes aside, I don’t see why she should not. That being said some female friends complain about not feeling their best in various ways during their period. If you’re not feeling good perhaps it’s better to wait.

16. Are they werewolves or something, why would/should they let this stop them. Stop making your own barriers and do what makes you happy.

17. If they’re not cramping, sick, or otherwise physically/mentally indisposed then why not?

18. They aren’t a social pariah when menstruating. JFC – how is this even a question that comes up in your head?

19. If your going to a hookup you should let him know you’re on your period.

    If it’s just a date then it’s no big deal unless you’ve lead him to belief there will be fucking.

    Even then it may be fine if you talk to him about it.

    No one here can give you permission. Ask your date.

20. >hook ups

    You should probably not plan to fuck someone for the first time while on your period, no.

    Getting to know one another sexually is fraught enough without that additional complication.

    You should certainly not seek to surprise the other person with your period, they should know what they’re getting into well in advance and actually agree to it.

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    >dates

    Do you think that you’re the best company that you can be while cramping, bloating, uncomfortable, or even in pain?

    Do you think that’s giving a relationship a fair shake?

21. Maybe not surfing on Maui