ive noticed that if i talk to someone too much/daily. it usually leads to other person lose interest in me and eventually resulting in a shitty friendship.
i met a girl online and she looks very interested in talking to me. she texts me daily which is very rare because i don’t get any message from someone.
i obviously like to talk to people and i like when people text me instead of just me always texting them first. but this time I’m afraid to talk to this girl because i don’t want her to lose interest and leave like everyone else do. should i talk to her daily or once in few days?
it’s not like i like her or something but i just don’t have any friends and anyone who shows some interest in me means a lot to me. 🙂
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If she texts you daily you should reciprocate! Replying days later wil make her think you’re uninterested
In general, Yes. Talking everyday will make you run out of interesting things to say and make things boring. The more dangerous consequence is you become needy and reliant on text messages from the other person for validation, which will push the other person away. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation. So space out the texting. Better yet, train yourself to not care so much about texting and learn how to genuinely connect with people in person. Learn how to be genuinely busy in your own life pursuing goals and hobbies while interacting with others on the side. Naturally, you won’t focus on texting, and you will stand out considerably. Chase excellence not people.
Don’t worry too much about maintaining the friendship. If she messages you don’t intentionally wait to respond