I went to another country (just for 2 days) for Harry Styles concert. And it was one of the happiest day in my life. Today I came back home and my boyfriend (we live together) seeing me happy and smiling asked me why I’m still happy if concert finished yesterday. He said that’s it’s not ok to behave like this just because of the concert. I told him that I feel like I’m the happiest person in the world. He just laughed at me and I told him that he should be happy for me.
But he just started ignoring me 😐
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Time to be happier and find a new boyfriend
Maybe he hates Harry? Still, normal SO would want to chat about
Why wouldn’t you want your so to be happy?
Try to talk to him about it. If he reacts like an asshole, just leave him. Happiness >>>> boyfriend
I just don’t understand? Like maybe being jealous I might get, MAYBE. But this?
He is jealous.
He doesn’t think you were alone
and /or he feels left out
and / or he doesn’t want you to be happy without him.
If it’s the first one you can try to reassure him that you didn’t cheat on him. The second, you can say you really wanted him to be with you and missed him and next time you go together…
If he always does that every time you go out or accomplish something…beware.
But can be just normal jealousy. I think you would feel the same, wouldn’t you? Your boyfriend traveling to another country without you to go to a concert (alone?) and coming back all smiley?
Dont EVEN spend a second worry about how he feels, listening what he has to say. Continue your happy vibes! Totally normal continue to be happy after concert! It’s Memorable. Your happiness is from from within, you don’t need his approval. Sure, a partner should be happy for you, but he’s not. He wants you to feel guilty and he is getting it. Don’t give it to him. Do your thing, house chores, food shopping, cooking, laundry etc… He should get over it soon, if not, his problem, not yours.
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He sounds toxic. Not someone worth keeping around.
If he does not respect your space and is not happy for you because you had a good time, it is time he moves on to somebody he controls.
In a relationship it is always a two way street for both side, respect each other and he is not doing that acting like a ….
Dump him, find a real man
That’s toxic behavior, can you imagine being upset that someone you are supposed to love is happy about some thing? Does he do this with everything? Did his mom ever teach him not to yuck someone else’s Yum?
Sounds like he doesn’t want you being happy – if this keeps going on, you should move on!
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He sounds like a miserable bastard
Well that’s a dick move honestly cuz everyone should want their partner happy and thriving and just feeling like all jittery in the inside and outside you know so it’s f***** up that your partner made you feel like that and I’m so sorry that happened to you but how was the concert
No one who is supposed to care about you should ever make you feel bad for being happy.
Break up
So that is his insecurities showing. Meaning in his head, you bring happy after the concert is not normal and he is going through a million scenarios of why you are acting abnormal. Which also shows his emotional damage from either previous relationships, or his upbringing, as well as some immaturities. All put together can be considered narcissistic behavior and extremely toxic. In his eyes he should be the only one making you happy and he might be hiding some bad behavior he did from you…..
Are y’all like 17 or something?
Sounds like an ex-boyfriend to me
Sound like you need to figure out who your with foreal cause if you’re man doesn’t want you to be happy then why are you with sex or what?
Alright imma throw some break on this thread, there is so little Information on this post it is wild how many “break up with him” suggestions there are.
There’s so much context missing here, none of us can possible understand the full situation. We don’t know the age, how long they’ve been dating, if this has been an issue before etc. hell he coulda just been in a real foul mood that day because of something completely unrelated, But let’s just walk through it.
Its great that going to that concert was a wonderful experience and it put you in good spirits. I’m happy you did something that made you feel that way. Now for your Bf reaction. It is definitely cold and a step out of line. Your SO should be happy that you are happy, it is as simple as that. And there’s no reason someone who cares for you is trying to put you down in such a manner. But is there something underlining that is actually bothering him. Is that something he might have wanted to experience with you, maybe he doesn’t like the music, but if it meant that much to you and you had that much fun, maybe he would’ve gone just to have that experience together, did you ask or did he scoff at the idea? If he blew it off and then makes fun of you for having a good time, then that’s on him.
Is possible your boyfriend has insecurity issues? It’s possible he thinks you are cheating I guess, but does he have a history of not trusting you, or did you happen to have photos of you with someone he doesn’t exactly trust at the concert? Again, that is a communication issue on his part, but there might be some feeling he is not working out.
All in all, yes, it is hella rude for this guy to trying to ruin your mood because he thinks it’s “weird”. It isn’t weird at all and life is too short to not enjoy the little things and radiate joy when you find it. But it sounds to me that if this is out of the ordinary for your BF then he probably has something on his mind and needs to communicate better, that doesn’t excuse his behavior but if you love him and he loves you and it’s been a good relationship otherwise, there’s something you need to talk out with him, and use it as a moment to have him learn better ways of communicating his frustrations. If this is common, he is always trying to belittle your interests and trying to bring you down to his level, that’s much more toxic and maybe you’re just now realizing it. Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t support you finding happiness, but from the few sentences you wrote, I’m not willing to suggest your BF is a abusive piece of shit, with the benefit of the doubt I would say, it’s likely not about the concert or your being happy returning and probably more complicated and you need to talk it out with him. If he refuses to elaborate then yeah idk, maybe he’s just a grumpy guy and you can go from there
Sounds like he hasnt been pegged in awhile. You should peg him.
DUMP HIM. HE’s a loser. No one that loves you will be upset that you are happy.
I had a GF who was like this. She spent her money on purses and physical items I would spend mine on travel and she would get upset that I was traveling without her. But she didn’t want to travel and didn’t want to put in the effort to go with me. She knew how much I loved traveling. We stayed together longer than we should.
Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t like seeing you happy.
Dump him please. Imagine someone that “loves” you being angry that you are happy. You don’t deserve that negative energy in your life
Dump
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Sounds like he is toxic. Maybe a narcissist. Watch out there.
He’s got some massive insecurity issues. He’s unhappy that you’re happy because he couldn’t provide you with being happy. This is excessively toxic. I would seriously think about splitting up with him