I started a new job and everyone is super nice and cordial, but I’m naturally kind of quiet and don’t know what to talk to them about besides University. I get along with everyone, but I don’t have anything in common with any of them. I’ve been having trouble making friends recently because I’m so busy with work and school that I haven’t been making the time to do much else, so it just makes me feel worse.
It’s hard because there’s a lot of downtime in this job and so everyone gets to know each other really well. A lot of people are genuinely friends with each other outside of work. Sometimes I try and include myself in the conversation, and most of the time it’s okay, but sometimes someone speaks over me and I lose the courage and just drop it. I feel like my social skills are getting worse and worse and it’s embarrassing and sad.
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I recently read a book called “[Pre-Suasion](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghLVnGYqWmw)” by Robert Cialdini, which talks about how to influence people’s mindset before making a request.