I (37m) have been with my gf (36f) for about a year now, however this is the second time we’ve been together! We spilt up for about 10 years before we reconnected again. We have 2 children together who are now in their early teens.
At first it seemed great, especially since I was able to see the kids more, they are both amazing beyond words and we’ve always been extremely close.
However my relationship with my girlfriend seems to be getting worse. I care for her deeply, but struggle to feel love again like we had before. She can be very difficult and that was one of the main reasons we spilt up. She suffers from depression and anxiety, which I can easily handle and live happily with her, however her mood swings can be very unpredictable and sometimes violent, emotionally and physically (not that she’s ever hurt me seriously).
That’s making her sound worse than she is! Shes a caring and easy to get on with person, who I do cherish. However I worry that the problems we had and potently are seeing again, will be the end of us. I’m scared that it will destroy the kids as they are so happy that we are back together. I’m worried I am making the wrong decision either by staying or spilting up again.
I don’t think she would ever stop me from seeing the kids though.
What should I do? Hope my feeling change and I start to fall for her all over again, or leave before things get worse?
TL;DR
Should I say with ex/gf or leave again and break the kids hearts.
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Considering there are children involved, I would REALLY dig deep into the thoughts of “can we fix this?”
If you see the slightest chance of a solution, stay for the kids,
I grew up in a household without a dad and it really took its toll sometimes.
That being said, if these issues really do start to look like they can’t be fixed, it really is that simple sometimes. Just make sure you continue to shine love and support into the kids’ lives. I know most children of divorce would say they would rather have 2 parents living happy, healthy lives (apart) than a toxic resentful home environment with their 2 parents staying together.