Hey reddit. Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
I am absolutely head over heels with my girlfriend, I love her to death but for the live of me I can’t maintain an erection with her in the bedroom. I’m not entirely sure the exact reason, but ultimately I feel I’m trying to reprogram my brain after years of weird habits.
See, it all started as a very young kid. My parents had that back massager, you know the one with the vibrating bulbs. Well, young me decided to see what it was like on my “Mr. WeeWee”, and it resulted in my first ever orgasm. Long story short, my habits ended up revolving around that and creating “friction” for pleasure, something that isn’t replicated during sex.
Fast forward to my adult life. I actually slept around a lot with people, casual one nights, but generally it ended with mutual maturbation and rarely was it actual sex. Now, I’m in a serious relationship with someone and every time we start doing foreplay I get incredibly nervous and just end up going down on her until she cums. Lately though, she’s been thinking she isn’t attractive and wondering why she can’t get me off.
Honestly, this is something I’ve wanted to fix for the longest time, but the way I pleasure my self is so incredibly specific and unable to be replicated during sex. Because of that, I think I get incredibly nervous/anxious when they’re waiting for me to go in that I psyche myself out even worse. Its funny because I know I have it in me, sometimes I wake up and I’m… INCREDIBLY in the mood and my girlfriend and I end up having great sex, but it’s so specific and I’m aided by the confidence of my morning warrior if you know what I mean.
I even told my physician about it, and he prescribed me some V as a confidence booster, but that doesn’t even work LOL it just makes my dick feel unnaturally stiff.
Anyone have any advice/input? I honestly don’t even care much about sex, I just want to be able to please my girlfriend and give her what she wants.
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Dude it’s so easy to get a viagra script from a doctor, not tests or anything, you just tell them whats happening and they write it up. Then at the pharmacy they were like “This prescription costs 400$, but we have a coupon that will make it free.” Fucking America.
Try a vibrating pleasure ring. The better ones comes with different levels of intensity. It make your ..love below vibrate…fun for the both of you..don’t get the cheap ones you can barely feel them…spend at least $40 or more for a good one. You can find them at most drug stores and Walmart and places of the like
Try a vibrating pleasure ring. The better ones comes with different levels of intensity. It make your ..love below vibrate…fun for the both of you..don’t get the cheap ones you can barely feel them…spend at least $40 or more for a good one. You can find them at most drug stores and Walmart and places of the like
You can also visit your favorite porn site a type in vibrating cock ring and watch videos of them in action so to get a feel of what would suit your situation beat.
Dont supress it or it will creep back up in weirder ways. Know this by experience. Talk to your GF in confidence and bring your kink into the bedroom somehow. but supressing it is not the answer