So as the title said, my girlfriend of 9 months thinks I don’t want or desire her just because we don’t have “enough sex” for her.
I see her a few times a week, and we both work longish hours. Most of the time, I’m so beat from work, I don’t have the cardio energy to have sex.
After I got Covid, months before I met her, my parts had issues getting hard.
A lot of the time, it’s a mental thing for me since sometimes I’d get soft when we had sex. I would get insecure and have performance anxiety. I told her that and she said “well how come you’re always hard if I want to blow you or give you a hand job”
Even when I don’t want to have sex, she always is down to give me oral sex or please me, but I feel bad that I can’t please her as
Much as she’d like. We only have sex like once a week. And I haven’t had sex for 7 years before I met her so she thinks that I should be constantly desiring her.
Sometimes I just want to cuddle and vibe with her. I like having my butt played with and I feel like that’s the thing that REALLY gets me going. She’s open to doing that but kinda gets grossed out I feel when I ask her to do certain things.
I don’t know what to do. Or if she’s pressuring me. Or if I just have something else going on. She says that I turn her down more than we actually have sex.
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Try giving her oral sex. That’s only fair as she gives you oral. Have fun.
I can highly recommend eating healthier, and working out. It helps with sex drive. I work a manual labor job and work out twice a week. I am also trying to make myself meals at least 3 times a week. 1. You’ll be better. 2. You are in better shape, so that you won’t feel so tired when she asks for sex. You’ll notice you have more energy too. Can recommend taking vitamins. Your body can suffer from not having enough of certain vitamins.
Sorry for this, but uhm duh, go down on her, she does it for -you-!
Also, read She Comes First, book about cunniligus.