Hi everyone. If I’m out in public and randomly start having a conversation with a woman who I’ve never met I realize I almost always bring up my fiancée. Is this weird for the stranger woman?
An example of where I did this is while I was at the dog park. I was there with my dog throwing around a ball and a woman around my age came up to me saying she thought my dog was really cute and friendly. I thanked her and we talked about our dogs for a few minutes. I then say something like “yeah I actually wanted a dog who doesn’t shed but my fiancée wanted a larger dog. So we agreed on getting this 40lb golden doodle”. And after bringing up my fiancée it almost always makes her seem weird directly after.
So should I stop bringing up my fiancée mid conversation with strangers? Unless they start making moves?
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I know it’s weird, because it shouldn’t matter and people lie anyway, but I actually appreciate it.
I had to meet with an inspector at a house I was looking to buy and at one point it was just him and me in this empty house and I just felt weird. He started talking about his finacee and the wedding and I just relaxed.
It’s silly, it’s absurd, it shouldn’t matter, but I literally felt myself relax. It just changed the dynamic.
So yeah… I think it’s fine to let people know you’re off the market, especially if it’s in a natural small-talk way, like it sounds like you’re doing.
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