Fwb(27M) is great in bed but sometimes says he feels like he doesn’t know what he’s doing.
I (28F) am experienced but don’t know how to “teach” sex, especially because I receive penis-so, I’ve never occupied his “role” before.
Any tips or tricks I could show him that would make him feel confident in bed?
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Explore, try things, give feedback and talk opening about it. There isn’t a magic bullet to this all, you have to try things to learn things.
Easy to do: give complimenting dirty talk during sex and say how awesome it feels ‘when you do this’ during and after sex. Make it genuine of course, so when it feels good, tell him: ‘Oh my god, this feels so good’ or ‘you are so good at this’
I like being told what to do during sex. It takes the guess work out of it, I don’t have to worry whether that’s what she wants or not. Try giving him some feedback in the form of body language, physical response to what he’s doing, and verbal too. If he’s atentive he will pick up on it.
If he is doing something you don’t like, don’t phrase it negatively like “don’t do that” or use any negative language because that will make things worse. Instead say it positively like “do it this way” that make sense?