I am 17 years old (f) and my boyfriend is 18, I want to have sex all the time, but it’s hurts so much. We’ve had sex a couple of times but every time it hurts and we have to stop. The only position where it doesn’t hurt is when i am on top of him. please if you have any advice that would be awesome. 🙂
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You can try lube. Sometimes this can help
But generally painful sex is a reason to see your doctor or gynecologist. Sometimes something medical can be going on that can be fixed/treated (Like vaginismus and using dilators)
There are a number of things that could cause pain, and as robo said, it should be evaluated by an gynecologist.
Also to second the point above…lube.
Also also how big is BF? It’s possible that he may be too large for someone who haven’t had much sex to take comfortably. If he is large, then maybe just work up with fingers, small toys, etc
Your post says only when you are on top it doesn’t hurt. Me, I get soaked when I’m on too because my clitoris is stimulated and I control it. So I’m wondering if your not wet enough. I need constant stimulation. Try playing with your clit when he’s thrusting. In missionary it’s harder but he can back off a little, makes it easier.
Some girls have some kind of genetic issue that they have to get fixed through surgery. My wife did. If you think maybe that’s the issue, go see a gynecologist.
Far more normal than you’d think. Go to your family GP who is familiar with your medical history already and I gaurentee he or she will have dealt with this before.
Alternatively you’ll most likely have options for a women’s specialist, run by women, for women.
Best of luck, sex is one of the pleasurable experiences for human beings and I hope things work out for the best.
Use foreplay and go slow. With my first boyfriend, he would finger me a lot and play with my clit to get me super wet. Then he would put lube on himself and then enter me and I stopped feeling pain.
i would try a good quality lube 🙂 it first really hurt for me and still sometimes does. i would try maybe teasing before sex and include lube before sex and during, it helps sooo much :)) just try to relax as much as you can and remember if it still hurts and you dont like it you can stop whenever you want :))
There is this thing – I don’t remember what it is called- where some of the tissue of your uterus sticks out of your cervix and can cause sex to be painful. So I second the gynecological visit