So I‘m kind of having a “good problem“ with my gf. Whenever we have sex the penetrative part tends to last for about 50-70 minutes with foreplay lasting about an hour. Both my gf and I really enjoy our sex life and we couldn‘t be happier.
The sex is really good and feels absolutely amazing for me. My gf makes me feel so safe and loved, it still just takes a very long time for me to reach orgasm.
Now to the problem: sometimes we don‘t just have the time for such long lasting sex. I can cum very quickly from handjobs, fairly quickly from blowjobs and take quite a lot of time to cum from penetrative sex. There‘s obviously the solution of getting me off by hand and so on but honestly I‘d just like to have sex with her and be able to cum in like 10 minutes.
If any of you experienced this before or have any idea on how I could decrease the time it takes me to cum I‘d really love to hear your ideas!
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If you (and your butt) are open to it, a butt plug. It can ramp up arousal and it pushes against the prostate. Also practice semen retention and edging for a couple days by not cumming during sex. Then when you have sex the next time you may be ready to go much quicker.
1. Sex can end without you reaching orgasm.
2. Masturbate hard and fast during 4play
3. If your lady can take it, don’t hold back. Go as fast and hard as you can as soon as she is wet enough and comfortable enough.
For me, doggy style is the answer. It just hits all the right spots at just the right angle, and it is easy to adjust that angle to make it just right. (by spreading her legs, etc)
I did it this morning. Had an 8am meeting, started sex at 7:45 and was seated at my desk with a cup of coffee on time.
I wasn’t able to fit in a donut run unfortunately.
I am the same way in that it takes me a while to cum. Sometimes it takes multiple sessions and there are times I just don’t come. When I do come, it’s usually by going slow missionary or absolutely pounding her doggystyle. Even when I don’t come, I always make sure she knows it has nothing to do with her, that sex with her always feels great, and that she’s had multiple orgasms. And we both know that quickies are for making her come fast and that’s it.
Timing and hormones can also be a factor. For example my husband doesn’t last as long in the mornings. He also doesn’t last as long during my fertility window because i tend to get off quicker during piv, which tends to put him over the edge.
Dirty talk and moaning from her, doggy plus thumb in her ass, this next ones probably just me but in spoons position, burying my face in her armpit really tips me over the edge, same with faux choking her, it triggers something primal in both of us.
I can also train myself to cum quicker by watching super hot porn like compilations of things I like, plus jacking off hard with no stopping or slowing down, and a target of cumming within 5 mins. A week of this daily and I get better at cumming fast – my problem is years of trying to hold back cumming has become automatic and I have to unlearn it.
Hmm it depends on the person, but without all that preparation of not masturbating or having sex for a while and similar, i would say 69 and positions where you are most relaxed. The more you need to move, more blood is needed in more important parts of your body than your penis.
Try penetrative with just the tip, as it is more sensible.
If anal is an option in her, it might help you as it’s tighter. And if it is an option in you, prostate massage will help.
Other than that, your diet(rarely) and stress will affect how long you last, so take that in account and try having an healthier diet, being the most relaxed possible, massage each other.
And all the other “preparations” on the comments
How often are you masterbating and how tight of a grip are you using.