My boyfriend (22m) and I (22f) have been together for 3 years and in the last months, due to major life/routine changes, we went through a lot and our relationship has been rocky.
After months trying to work on the issues and failing over and over again, we are finally getting better and relearning how to communicate peacefully, how to be kind and patient as we have always been.
But I feel like we have lost the foundation of the relationship and our passion for each other, even though things are better.
I find myself picking up on things I usually wouldn’t, noticing his “flaws” a lot more. It’s a bad habit I have developed in the last months and it seems to be the hardest one to get rid of.
We wanna rekindle and rebuild our relationship and to feel “in love” with each other again. We still love each other more than anything, but we have spent too much time “destroying” the good parts of our relationship and our emotional connection/intimacy is now weak.
How could we start to heal from these things and find the spark again? We don’t wanna lose each other but we both agree there’s something missing and we want it back. We wanna feel excited about each other again.
It’s been just a few weeks since we have been getting better and some arguments still happen here and there, could it be because it’s still too recent?
tl;dr: My relationship has been rocky and we are having a hard time reconnecting and recreating emotional connection.
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It sounds to me like your relationship has run its course. “Rebuilding” is for long-married people who have grown apart but have promised themselves, their family, their friends, and their god that they would not give up on their relationship. When unmarried 22-year-olds with no kids together find that they are annoyed with each other and argue regularly, they break up, take time to heal, and then date other people until they find someone who is a better match for the person they’ve become.