So I’m a huge introvert, but lately I tried to get out of my comfort zone and I’ve been feeling quite sociable so I downloaded this dating app on a whim last week and was about to delete it, but then I matched with this guy. He seems really nice and we seem to have quite a few things in common, so I thought I’d see where this goes. We talked a little and decided to meet up soon.
The thing is I’ve been single my whole life and I never went on a date so I’m really anxious (to the point where I’ve had a stomachache from the stress for the past 2 days and I cant seem to eat a lot). I don’t even know if I want to be in a relationship yet or if I just want to keep focusing on my studies. Don’t get me wrong, I do want to give this a try and he genuinely seem like a nice guy, but he sounds really extroverted and it scares me a little. I’m probably a bit paranoid, but I’m also afraid this might just be a joke because he sounds really cool.
And I’m also wondering if there are things I should know for a first date? Is there something special I should do?
This post is probably a mess as I can’t really explain how I’m feeling, but I do appreciate anyone who read my post and has a little advice for me.
Edit: Do I have to tell him it’s my first date?
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First dates are just quick meet ups to see how you both feel about possibly dating. You don’t owe the guy anything. You’re not even dating yet, let alone in a relationship. This is nothing.
Honestly the best tips I’ve got are look nice (if it’s for coffee, jeans and a tee is okay, dinner nice jeans and a nice shirt), don’t dive super deep unless the other does (ie don’t talk about your trauma, dive deep into family, ect. Stick to hobbies and the like that’ll tell you stuff about them without going super deep into their life) and be honest! If you’re nervous say it! Some take it as a compliment and poke a little fun at it to lighten the mood or even state they too we’re nervous. How they respond is important tbh. If they poke fun at it lightly, that’s a person with a good sense of humor (as long as they do it once or twice and not more). It can honestly open up conversations and make people feel more at ease.