special type of psychological torture called “all the roomates are in another room laughing and having fun and you aren’t invited or welcome” </3

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1. >you aren’t invited or welcome

   I do hope you realize you’ve made that up all on your own.

2. You never even asked them, you’re trapping yourself

3. Have you ever tried having individual conversations with the roommates? Creating those connections first would probably help the group vibe be better.

4. Choose just one guy, introduce yourselves, ask them how was their day, they’ll ask some questions back too, if they don’t, choose someone else, that’s not possible they won’t, there would be some nice guys who wouldn’t be, “I’m better, It’s me time, I don’t care about you.”

   If you’re thinking, what would they think about you , They won’t they have enough time to think about themselves.

   I don’t think this is “fake scenarios in head” or something, you just need some changes in your mindset of how you should approach people.

5. You do realize they probably think you’re the one with a problem with them? They probably think you’re avoiding them, or don’t like them, or don’t want to hang out.

   This is probably a product of social anxiety. Start small-a nice greeting anytime you see somebody. Just say hi, good morning, ask how their day was. Ordering pizza? Try saying “hey I’m getting pizza anybody want anything?”. Asking about the homework, perhaps. You’ll get there eventually.

6. Thats absolutely me every night, it drives me crazy. In my case they’re in one of their rooms and it’s awkward if I go in, but if they’re in the living room you have every right to be there. I get it’s hard if the vibes are off though, I feel that in the kitchen sometimes when I know I won’t have anything to say to them when they’re laughing so hard and just decide to stay inside instead.