So I (19f) got ate out for the first time and I couldn’t orgasm from it. I finally felt comfortable and in the mood and loved feeling my partner down there but for some reason I couldn’t build up to an orgasm. It felt pleasurable but not enough to tip me over. Is that normal? I always hear about women orgasming only from cunnilingus, or cumming every time they receive it, so why didn’t it feel like that for me?
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I don’t think he was bad at it, it all felt very good and it was really hot, but I just couldn’t finish.
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Were you vocal about what felt real good?
That’s totally normal! For me, it took a while to learn what I liked, and more often than not it would take a bit of time and practice for a new partner to learn my body. On top of that, what would work for me one time isn’t guaranteed to work the next.
The important part is that you enjoyed it. Keep on enjoying it, and maybe you’ll find it along the way.
When I’m having trouble cumming from oral, sometimes I’ll ask for a finger or two, and playing with my nipples while he’s going down also helps.
Give yourself time. Remember that orgasming with a partner is different from doing it yourself and it can take time to adjust to the differences in sensation. It’s really not a big deal.
If it’s really important to you, try getting yourself close to the edge by yourself and then turn to your partner and say “finish me.” This way, you begin to train your body to equate orgasmic sensitivity with these new sensations.
This has happened to me as well. Fingers provide more stimulation, a lot of people are too gentle for me when giving oral, and sometimes I feel teeth which is instantly a no. Just rub me and I’m grand