I’ve been speaking to this guy for a couple months now and we’ve seen each other a couple times. The last two times we got really horny and so he ate me out but I can tell he wants head in return too because he told me. He complained that he was giving me head but getting “only a handjob” which In my opinion is enough because I wouldn’t give head outside of a relationship.
The two times he gave me head it wasn’t like I told him to do it, it was just in the moment and who’s gonna turn down head? Which is where I feel I may have been in the wrong?
Also he says I don’t jerk him off right but when he masturbates he does it superrrrr fast like abuses his dick and my hands get tired easily so I don’t know how I could improve my handjobs for him.
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You give head because you like to do it and not because you want the favour returned.
Getting head will be the first of his demands and many more will come. You decide for yourself if that’s worth a conversation or not.
Yeah that’s gross. Head is nice but you don’t give it because you want to receive it. And it has some STI risks so nobody should expect it from a non-partner.
Also a handjob isn’t like masturbation it should be slower and stimulate more of the penis. It’s really difficult and uncomfortable to jack someone off the way they can do to themselves.
Sounds like an inexperienced jerk tbh.
I just imagine the comments if the genders were reversed.
You are not wrong. But it is understandable why this guy is interested in reciprocation. What is your status with him anyway? You are dating?
>The two times he gave me head it wasn’t like I told him to do it, it was just in the moment and who’s gonna turn down head? Which is where I feel I may have been in the wrong?
Have you told him you don’t want to reciprocate? As long as he knows you’re not interested in returning the favor then there is no issue here. If you don’t want to suck his dick that is totally fine.
That all being said, you have to be open to the possibility that he’s not wrong about your handjobs not being pleasurable. This isn’t about establishing blame, but it is not unreasonable that maybe you two are just not a good match because you are unwilling to give him what he believes to be good sex.