I’m 40F and have no problem with multiple orgasms. However I used to have single, intense orgasms in my younger days and I just don’t know how I can achieve it anymore. I am talking about quivering, leg shaking, toe curling orgasms. How can I achieve an intense orgasm?

Also curious how to help my partner (M) achieve an intense orgasm. The last time we had sex he orgasmed and shivered/trembled. I’m assuming he did, but curious how to help a man as well.

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  1. You will need to ask him about what he needs.

    What exactly got you off so intensely in the past? Does that no longer work as well?

    Are you on any meds?

    Your hormones may be different now. My wife and I found a hormone specialist who has us both dialed in.

  2. One trick my ex used on me [M] was during missionary, as I was about to come, she’d wrap her legs around me and dig her heels into my ass, right near the rectum. It would indirectly stimulate the prostate and WOW it was absolute euphoria. It helps for him to relax his muscles back there and really give himself to you when he’s coming. Great also jf he’s not into prostate stim through penetration.

  3. Having you tried breathing during your orgasms. Holding your breath often become a habit but breathing during it can give you that full body experience.

  4. Try to Build up to them instead of chasing after them. The longer the build up, the better they can be for some people.

  5. You do up/down edging, delaying your orgasm for as long as possible. In other words, stim for a while, then back off, stim again, then back off. It’s like climbing a staircase. When you finally get to the top and can’t take it anymore, then you jump off.

    It’s part of the so-called “tantric” practice.

    Same goes for the man. The longer he can delay his orgasm, the bigger it will become.

  6. For me, if we’re having missionary sex, and she reaches down and grabs my balls and pulls the away from my body a bit….I have an extremely intense orgasm.

    Or…smoke really strong weed if that’s your thing. I smoked hash once and it felt like I came for 5 minutes.

  7. An ice cube to the nipples during each contraction, or to the clit.

    For him, hold your palm up supporting his balls, gentle pressure, and slide in an agonizingly slow petting motion.

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