We have been together for almost a year now and have been regularly having sex (both std tested and exclusive) with and without contraceptives. I’m madly in love with him cos he’s a sweetheart and even though he finishes and I don’t most days, Ive never said anything about it as I know how affected he is by the fact he can’t last in bed. He tries to get me off before he enters me (but sometimes it’s hard for me to cum just like that, he’s new to giving head as he’s not used to being physically active before). Every time we have sex, he can’t last for more than 20seconds once he penetrates me. He apologises for it, and I’ve been telling him we have to do it more often so he will be able to last longer as he gets used to the sensation. I’m not sure how else he can be helped. He doesn’t want to try a cork ring but is up to try any other suggestions. I don’t want him to feel too self conscious and make himself lose his self esteem as I really like him and I enjoy any and all act of intimacy we do other than just that. I constantly reassured him on that end, but I know it’s always in his mind and he brings it up quite often. Please help, thanks
3 comments
When you say “doesn’t last” do you mean premature ejaculation, or do you mean loss of erection?
The first thing to do might be for him to see a urologist, if he can stomach it.
He must not be that self conscious if he does nothing about it, other than hope it gets better with time. There are creams, supplements, etc.
Sorry but no one is doing anything about it.
You mention it but he keeps on keeping.
When he brings it up- you suggest professional help. You don’t resort to coddling him or his insecurity, you acknowledge there is a problem and you support a decision to do something about it.