I hooked up with a girl at her place while her family was away. Once they came back, we couldn’t really do anything anymore.
She would sext me saying that she was really horny and wanted to have sex with me, but any time I offered to pay for a hotel room, she would reject the idea. I didn’t get upset; I just simply said ok and kept going on with my day.
After a while I stopped talking to her and communications between us slowed down. She gets super furious about that, but I told her that I’m not going to coerce someone or make them feel guilty for rejecting sex because the only solution to have some privacy is the get a hotel room—which is an idea that she vehemently opposes. Sex in a car or in public has been ruled out completely.
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Can’t have it at your house?
So she’s not your girlfriend? You’ve just hooked up once?
Take her on a date, man. Have a great time and get to know her a little bit. Then, maybe, get a hotel room. You don’t have to make her your girlfriend, but it won’t feel as cheap. Just my two cents based on what you’ve written.
It is hard to understand exactly your relationship is.
Bro. She wants more than sex with you.
She wants romance or intimacy or maybe even to date you.
She has communication issues.
She thinks you only see her as a source of sex and while she may want to fuck you silly, when a person wants more than sex, being desired for just your body is not arousing. If you don’t just see her as a fuckbuddy, you might try asking her out.
…Have you asked HER what a possible solution would be if you two really wanna get it on?
It is a real possibility that she feels “cheap” by you offering to get a hotel room.
Not that you’re doing anything wrong, I think it’s actually kind of sweet that you’re going that extent.
She may also have feelings for you so if she feels like she’s being asked to hide in a hotel to have sex. It might be frustrating to her.
There’s a good chance she may want something else offered. Like a date.
Either way. She needs to grow up a bit and communicate with you about what she wants.
I would definitely open a dialogue about your relationship status and what you want as far as that goes.
I don’t know man. Do you care about other’s opinions more than your own needs? If yes, then yes. You’re a jerk.
Ask her what she wants and then do that! The responsibility to plan and fix everything shouldn’t land on you every time, she’s an adult I’m sure she can figure out what she wants. So no, you would not be a jerk and since you don’t seem super invested and are “just going along for the ride” I’d break it off and sleep with someone you seem more eager about.
> She would sext me saying that she was really horny and wanted to have sex with me, but any time I offered to pay for a hotel room, she would reject the idea.
What about asking what she has in mind? If she doesn’t like your idea, then ask what she thinks is better.
> After a while I stopped talking to her and communications between us slowed down. She gets super furious about that,
If she wants a relationship, that’s not an appropriate way to express that.
You don’t owe her a relationship, and you’re not a jerk for dropping her if you just don’t want to continue. Depends what you want honestly. It’s your life.