I’ve been having sex for a while now, I’ve tried it out with multiple guys but when it’s penetration alone it feels almost like … nothing? I mean I can obviously feel it inside of me but it just doesn’t give me that much pleasure, clit stimulation makes me feel great and is always intense but penetration alone makes me feel almost bored cause its really just being pounded into especially if the guy is lost in his own pleasure and not touching me or stimulating my breasts, nipples, clit. I’ve noticed that men look like they’re in heaven during it, I guess it must feel insanely different for them. But is it usual for me to have no reaction to it? And is there a way to make penetration alone feel more pleasurable?
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Everyone is different. Try placing a pillow or pillows under your ass. This will change the angle the penis goes in. You have to play around to get the right angle.
This isn’t too unusual. The inside of your vagina *does* have sensitive areas, but these spots are generally less intensely sensitive than your clit or nipples. If you’ve ever heard of the ‘g-spot’ thats what we’re talking about here. Essentially, if you want to cum just from penetration without clit stimulation, it is possible, but it will take a lot longer and generally some specific positions to get whatever is inside you to rub against those specific spots at a slower pace. In particular, the ‘roof’ of the vagina is generally pretty sensitive (if you’re fingering yourself, curl your fingers up towards your belly button in a sort of come-here motion).
Short term advice; yeah, guys are lazy and often forget that you’re anything other than a nice warm hole, so make sure you cum first, in whatever your preferred fashion. If they won’t touch your clit, do it yourself. :\
Your vagina alone does not have as many nerves as your clit does. And its entirely normal to not find pleasure in penetration alone.
A man’s clit is on the end of his penis, so yeah it feels way different for them.
Usually a change in angle (put your butt on a pillow or doggy style with arching back) to reach the internal side of your clit (g spot) is needed or to reach your A-spot (above the g spot). As well as external pleasure, whether that be what you’ve noted or a more mental stimulation.
Vibrating cock rings and soft vibrating nipple clamps are also a really good choice, and most guys have no issue with it compared to those that get scared off from a full on vibrator being pulled out (but should still be an option if thats your preference).
Most importantly though you need to talk to your sexual partners about what you need to feel satisfied. The issue is that they dont know that penetration alone isn’t doing it for you, and you dont have to change to suit that. Just tell them you like other things in conjunction to PIV.
It’s definitely common to feel pleasure during penetration AND to not feel pleasure during penetration. Both groups of women exist and are common enough.
Some women use a vibe during penetration to achieve or enhance pleasure.
It’s normal from what you describe. Maybe trying to find your spots and then explaining to the guy can help. If he isn’t as experienced it might also still be new to him.
I met a girls that besides being stretched didn’t came from piv. And I have ab pretty girthy dick. So you just need to find the right spots
The clit is the main seat of our pleasure and it took years for me to get intense pleasure out of penetration even though I had several loving partners. A man’s clit is his dick so he’s getting his “clit stimulation” from penetrating you.
I started getting more out of penetration when I found my own anterior fornix and posterior fornix, which are areas near the cervix that can create a lot of pleasure when stimulated. Finding those took knowing they exist at all, plus a lot of self exploration with fingers (some people’s vaginas are longer and they need toys), and a THC edible. Once I got used to it I didn’t need THC for it anymore- the area now feels more “awake” all the time.
Crucially, you also need an unselfish partner and to communicate what feels good. Moan and say that it feels good when they hit the right spot or they will have no clue they’re getting it right.
If you can find positions where your legs are closed together but he can penetrate you, you will feel his penis more. A few positions like this would be:
* Lie on the bed with a few pillows under your hips, and bring your knees together, up to your shoulders.
* Lie on your side on a table, with your legs together, bent at the hips and with him standing next to the table.
* Lay on the bed on your side, with a pillow or two under your hips. Your lower leg is straight, and the upper leg is bent. He straddles your lower leg, and can penetrate you very deeply.
Also, oral sex can be really good. He should suck on your clit, and rub the inside of your pussy with his index finger. If he rubs the upper part, that’s the g-spot (it’s ridged) – quite magical for some women. If he rubs the lower part (smooth), it will make you feel quite filled.
Best of luck to you in your adventures !
You’re turned off and he’s turned on. Its very normal, particularly for women who do not get conditioned to stare at mens bodies to be turned on, for someone having sex with someone else who sucks at it and is being selfish, to not be aroused and thus feel no pleasure
Its not that you can’t feel pleasure, Its that the sex you’re having is terrible. Like you said, they’re lost in their own pleasure and you are unengaged and bored.
The way you make penetration feel more pleasurable is to not fuck a guy unless he shows you personal attention and makes interactions partly about you so that you can have a shot at having someone in bed who actually pays attention to your pleasure.
Get aroused BY your partner and their engagement of you and you’ll probably find you can cum from penetration alone.
Practically all men can climax from intercourse alone (*96% in some studies*) so they’re on a pathway to bliss when you guys do the business. They also probably think that non-reactions on your part just means they’re “*not doing it hard enough*” which makes it worse for you because it’s not giving you any of the stimulation you need/want.
So let’s set aside, for a second, finding your g-spot (*which you should totally make it your mission to find, by the way, because if you can find it then you’ll also be able to explore the positions and rhythms and intensity which best stimulate it*). If you want your needs met and are committed to letting them penetrate you (*and thus have their needs met*), you’ll have to insist that they get you off first.
That might mean pushing their heads right back down there like “*Nuh-uh. You’re not done. Mama’s got needs and her needs come first.*” Start riding faces. When they’re inside you, use positions where you can pleasurably stimulate yourself. Use toys and don’t be shy about it. “*This is what I need to get off. Either this is part of it or you bottle your peenor back up.*” Or something like that.
Life’s too short to spend time not having your needs met, so be clear about what needs to happen for you to get off and you’ll probably have many guys willing to focus on that. Like, they’re plenty eager, just probably unaware.